She is firm on cuckolding =cheating

You can't pressure her...you need to be patient. You say "she likes this porn a lot..but has no real life desire for it"...well enjoy the fantasy (you are well ahead of many other guys) and keep at it...if she is exposed to it long enough..she may learn to want it. But if you "******* the issue" you may completely close the door. Good luck.
 
lauren4bbcplz, have you even considered the thought that she loves you, doesn't want to screw up the relationship with you, and/or really just prefers being in a monogamous, sexual relationship? Believe me, there are a lot more women like that, than those with insatiable desires for big, black cocks ... a lot, lot more.
Has she even had sex with other men (of any color) since being with you?
I read the text messages you post, and the only one seemingly being logical and reasonable is her. When you involve a 3rd person into your sexual relationship, it takes only one of the three to screw up that relationship ... just ONE.
If the two of you have never included 3rd parties in your sex, its a pretty big ass jump to ask her to not only start screwing other men, but black men, especially in Kentucky.
You're asking her to disregard all her moral upbringing to satisfy your own sexual fantasy. It seems, if you are really interested in broadening the sexual relationship with her, you'd want to consider what HER sexual fantasies are, first, and start there.
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So yes your totally right in all aspects really... but its been like almost a year of being open about it akd everything and it comes down to her love. Me being her 1st and only vs my experience... she said it was her morals that its cheating Even when if im there ... however i pretty sure Im "addicted " sexually speaking to this fantasy and i just cant get it otta my head around her ...
 
I've seen the scenario play out a few times; once, I was the one involved and responsible. You take an inexperienced, innocent, young girl, who's had excellent upbringing and high morals and standards, and you corrupt her. She says no, and resists time and again until finally she gives in out of love for you. That young, innocent girl becomes insatiably infested with sexual lust and all the "feel good" things that come with it. Suddenly, the ones responsible peel away and vanish, and she's left by herself or with people who could give a crap about her. Basically, her life is ruined unless her family and closest friends are close by to rescue her. And when that happens, often, the person responsible ends up feeling bad about the whole thing as well; I know I did.
I guess I'm talking like a *******, I know, but its something to think about; having something that no one else has had. It's a silly 20th century thing, I know, but I'm 40 now, and have two teens to be concerned about individuals like you and me coming along with our selfish desires. Be glad for the jewel of a girl you have, or someone else may take her from you. The really sweet, innocent ones make good companions and awesome mothers. ;)
Best wishes to you ... Mac
 
Ok. Best advice I can give? BACK OFF!!!!!
Look. She is giving you hints that it is not her thing and the hints are not subtle. It's not to the point of her using a sledgehammer on you so you will understand, but it is close.
She is totally not interested in your fantasy. And it is YOUR fantasy.
Some women can get into this. Some never will. My ex-wife is of the "never will" category.
She has a relationship with YOU. Enjoy it. Be grateful. Stick with the toys and the porn, but don't ******* her to think the toy is a bbc. That is called manipulation.
You have a choice. You can grow up, realize what you have, realize she is just not into it, shut up, and be grateful for what you have. Or you can break up with her because your need for this is stronger than your relationship with her (which would be pathetic). But if you don't break up with her and you keep pushing, she may just break up with you.
 
I totally agree with falcondfw69--listen to him! I was with a woman once who was only there to please her husband..she was not into it at all and it was a disaster! The husband was upset with the wife because it was not going the way HE had thought it would go....the wife seemed embarrassed at the whole situation and of course I was not happy because it was apparent that the night was wasted. They argued, she cried and I left. Not sure what happened to them long term but I have a feeling that the damage was done. What you want will only work if all of you want it---be happy with what you have. Because if you aren't..I am sure there is another guy out there that will be!
 
You're playing with fire.

Reverse the situation- pretend she had a fantasy, such as having you dress as a woman and suck random dicks in a gloryhole or pull a train with 30 well hung guys fucking you in the ass. Let's say you aren't into it but she keeps "pummeling" you with gay porn in an attempt to get you to do it. How would you feel about it and how would you react. Being in a relationship is about compromise, not scheming to get your way in spite of what the other party wishes.
 
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