Discretion is the word we most often apply when meeting someone in public. Its as well the same when we notice a pair of eyes ogling us all around. A question for the ladies and brothers in her (although I realise already that your answers may not be 100% honest): do you often find yourself becoming self-conscious when you're in a public place and you notice a white girl(s)/black man(men) across from you checking you out? What's your typical reaction to this? Do you perceive him/her/them being interested in you, or maybe they're staring cos you left your fly/blouse open. What's the first thought in your head and how do you diffuse the ogling?