.....Everyone has their own, individual sexual turn-ons, Celine ... probably her's is not this topic. Women do tend to take a more common sense & protective approach to sex, particularly when they're married and there is a family established. I took a quick look at your profile to see what you'd filled in as "interests, etc" and there wasn't anything there. Its valuable & helpful to the readers to know what sexual activities the two of you have done to-date (roll playing, watching porno, etc), and how good your open-communications is with each other is. For the most part, including others in your marital sex play is considered "extreme" ... and takes some building up events to happen first.
.....Anything you can tell the forum about yourselves would be helpful, otherwise its the old saying "junk in, junk out".
Good luck.