Questions for the married white ladies here

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Sheclipsed

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this website purports to show a broad acceptance for black men sleeping with white women...specifically with married white women. My experience has been that many white men aren't so accepting of their girl having a black lover on the side. Some questions I have, and don't make fun, I'd really like to figure this out.

  • how did you convince your white husbands and boyfriends to let you improve your sex life with black men?
  • was this a long process to convince him, or did it happen quickly?
  • did it ever end your marriage / relationship?
  • is the only way to make your husband fetishize your relationship with a black men, or is there a way to date black men and have that relationship be truly yours, aside from your husbands fantasy?
  • how do you safely integrate a black lover into your relationship?
  • for the married women, how do you find real black men that will work for your marriage?
Thank you in advance for helping a girl out.
 
Sheclipsed said:
this website purports to show a broad acceptance for black men sleeping with white women...specifically with married white women. My experience has been that many white men aren't so accepting of their girl having a black lover on the side. Some questions I have, and don't make fun, I'd really like to figure this out.

  • how did you convince your white husbands and boyfriends to let you improve your sex life with black men?
  • was this a long process to convince him, or did it happen quickly?
  • did it ever end your marriage / relationship?
  • is the only way to make your husband fetishize your relationship with a black men, or is there a way to date black men and have that relationship be truly yours, aside from your husbands fantasy?
  • how do you safely integrate a black lover into your relationship?
  • for the married women, how do you find real black men that will work for your marriage?
Thank you in advance for helping a girl out.
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Hi, I will try to reply but please be aware we are only starting this lifestyle and more experienced couples could help you with more experience.

  • how did you convince your white husbands and boyfriends to let you improve your sex life with black men?
    It was like natural discussion with my fiancé about my previous relationships. My first serious relationship was with black boy in college. He was surprised and just asked my if I am still into black boys and said yes, I am still very attracted by black boys.
  • was this a long process to convince him, or did it happen quickly?
    It was like extension from our previous discussions. He just said me - it would be maybe great for me to restart with black partners if I still miss it?
  • did it ever end your marriage / relationship?
    No I would say from now we started to base our relationship on this lifestyle.
  • is the only way to make your husband fetishize your relationship with a black men, or is there a way to date black men and have that relationship be truly yours, aside from your husbands fantasy?
    I think it must ne truly yours. In our case both of us has perfect place for a moment, and I am free to decide and go outside and meet new partners.
  • how do you safely integrate a black lover into your relationship?
    We are only starting, but it is based on respect. We both respect each other and we both agreed on it.
  • for the married women, how do you find real black men that will work for your marriage?
    I would say you need to know your partners at least a little before sharing intimate moments.

    Kiss you
 
Sheclipsed said:
this website purports to show a broad acceptance for black men sleeping with white women...specifically with married white women. My experience has been that many white men aren't so accepting of their girl having a black lover on the side. Some questions I have, and don't make fun, I'd really like to figure this out.

  • how did you convince your white husbands and boyfriends to let you improve your sex life with black men?
  • was this a long process to convince him, or did it happen quickly?
  • did it ever end your marriage / relationship?
  • is the only way to make your husband fetishize your relationship with a black men, or is there a way to date black men and have that relationship be truly yours, aside from your husbands fantasy?
  • how do you safely integrate a black lover into your relationship?
  • for the married women, how do you find real black men that will work for your marriage?
Thank you in advance for helping a girl out.
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It really isn’t a broad acceptance of this. Swingers make up about 2% of the population. Interracial is an even smaller subset of that.

You’ll see comments here about approaching white women in public. Bad idea. Most couples aren’t into this lifestyle and a man will protect his marriage.

My husband is an amazing lover so improve isn’t a word I would use. Let’s not even get started on the myth of bbc. Just look at the pics people share on here. Pics that aren’t porn shoots are usually average sized guys.

I didn’t convince him and he didn’t convince me. We started out as swingers. We were invited to a party that turned out to be a swing party. We didn’t play but it got us curious. I think I like watching him play as much as he likes watching me.

You have to be secure to do this. We have watched many relationships end over this.

You’re asking questions from the point if an unhealthy relationship. Husbands that push this fantasy need to stop. No means no.

You have to screen people. You have to set boundaries and ensure those are followed. You have to communicate. This isn’t a free for all. That’s why I say start swinging first. It’s just play. Not life.
 
  • how did you convince your white husbands and boyfriends to let you improve your sex life with black men?
  • It was my husband who initiated it

  • was this a long process to convince him, or did it happen quickly?
  • It took him a couple years to convince me to do it

  • did it ever end your marriage / relationship?
  • It actually made our marriage better

  • is the only way to make your husband fetishize your relationship with a black men, or is there a way to date black men and have that relationship be truly yours, aside from your husbands fantasy?
  • We really don't do a date thing it is just plane old good sex.

  • how do you safely integrate a black lover into your relationship?
  • It is pretty much a friends with benefits relationship.

  • for the married women, how do you find real black men that will work for your marriage?
  • We used Craigslist at first but found Swinglifestyle much better.
We are not black exclusive open to men of all races
 
Rene Mills said:
It really isn’t a broad acceptance of this. Swingers make up about 2% of the population. Interracial is an even smaller subset of that.

You’ll see comments here about approaching white women in public. Bad idea. Most couples aren’t into this lifestyle and a man will protect his marriage.

My husband is an amazing lover so improve isn’t a word I would use. Let’s not even get started on the myth of bbc. Just look at the pics people share on here. Pics that aren’t porn shoots are usually average sized guys.

I didn’t convince him and he didn’t convince me. We started out as swingers. We were invited to a party that turned out to be a swing party. We didn’t play but it got us curious. I think I like watching him play as much as he likes watching me.

You have to be secure to do this. We have watched many relationships end over this.

You’re asking questions from the point if an unhealthy relationship. Husbands that push this fantasy need to stop. No means no.

You have to screen people. You have to set boundaries and ensure those are followed. You have to communicate. This isn’t a free for all. That’s why I say start swinging first. It’s just play. Not life.
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thank you! very thoughtful response. So, what if I'm not cool with him having sex with other women? God, I know I sound like such a hypocrite! But to say it in the most conceited (and I think honest way), I satisfy him sexually. He's just very conservative and I'd like to explore the darker side of men :). Which is why I've lurked here on and off, but haven't really engaged - cause I feel like a hypocrite (me getting to step out but not letting him do the same)
 
Sheclipsed said:
thank you! very thoughtful response. So, what if I'm not cool with him having sex with other women? God, I know I sound like such a hypocrite! But to say it in the most conceited (and I think honest way), I satisfy him sexually. He's just very conservative and I'd like to explore the darker side of men :). Which is why I've lurked here on and off, but haven't really engaged - cause I feel like a hypocrite (me getting to step out but not letting him do the same)
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Then you really shouldn’t be playing then
 
Sheclipsed said:
at the same time, aren't there some on here that would argue that it's OK for a white wife to sleep with black men while not allowing her white husband the same? Or am i jumping to false conclusions?
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Of course there are some on here that would say do it. They are cucks. Usually wannabe cucks that are obsessed with a fetish. Don’t get me wrong. It can be done and it can be done in a healthy way but that’s really rare
 
Rene Mills said:
Of course there are some on here that would say do it. They are cucks. Usually wannabe cucks that are obsessed with a fetish. Don’t get me wrong. It can be done and it can be done in a healthy way but that’s really rare
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well, that's what i'm shooting for lol. It's the unicorn / goldilocks scenario. This is all good to know. The longer i'm here, the more i think i should just talk to my husband openly about it. What could it hurt if i share my thoughts openly BEFORE i ever engage in extramarital relationships? Seems just like anyone expressing a curiosity. I think i just needed to be here and hear myself outloud (type/read) instead of just being in my head. Until now, it seemed like if i suggested the potential for me to have a black FWB that it would mean immediate divorce. But i'm probably making that up. It's just a conversation, right? Or am i now underplaying the complexity of that conversation?
 
this website purports to show a broad acceptance for black men sleeping with white women...specifically with married white women. My experience has been that many white men aren't so accepting of their girl having a black lover on the side. Some questions I have, and don't make fun, I'd really like to figure this out.

  • how did you convince your white husbands and boyfriends to let you improve your sex life with black men? It was my husband that had to convince me , he became infatuated after noticing a black work colleague’s much larger penis than his own white penis. From that onwards he tried to turn me into a black cock lover . But I refused for many years.
  • was this a long process to convince him, or did it happen quickly? It was an extremely long process of which I now regret as I have gone many years of unfulfilled sex .
  • did it ever end your marriage / relationship? No it has totally improved our relationship.
  • is the only way to make your husband fetishize your relationship with a black men, or is there a way to date black men and have that relationship be truly yours, aside from your husbands fantasy? As it was originally instigated by my husband’s desires I hold all the cards to play with whom I’m attracted to.
  • how do you safely integrate a black lover into your relationship? We have become a cuckold couple so it’s part of our relationship
  • for the married women, how do you find real black men that will work for your marriage? We met our first bbc at a party, it wasn’t planned it just happened. Since then it seems as if black guy’s can sense that I’m into them sexually.
 
The gym is my go to place to meet new guys , and we work out together so all 3 of us meet at the same time , we talk and work things out and if we are gonna play we exchange numbers it's really that easy , especially when I do the talking.
As far as my hubby is concerned as long as he thinks the guy is good looking cause I like him to enjoy our fun also , he has become quite the bisexual husband that I have made and I love his involvement.
If he isn't playing with me I'm not having fun , so yes I want to see my husband sucking and playing with the other guy too not just me
 
  • how did you convince your white husbands and boyfriends to let you improve your sex life with black men?
    Didn't have to - he already knew what I was like.
  • was this a long process to convince him, or did it happen quickly?
    See above reply.
  • did it ever end your marriage / relationship?
    Quite the opposite - it's a pastime we both enjoy - this lifestyle will strengthen a strong marriage or destroy a weak one.
  • is the only way to make your husband fetishize your relationship with a black men, or is there a way to date black men and have that relationship be truly yours, aside from your husbands fantasy?
    We are quite open with what we do and we do what we want with whoever we want (with Master's permission of course)
  • how do you safely integrate a black lover into your relationship?
    Trust and discretion are paramount - my husband knows I'll always return home after my fun dates.
  • for the married women, how do you find real black men that will work for your marriage?
    All involved must understand and respect the groundrules that should be laid out early on.
 
Sheclipsed said:
at the same time, aren't there some on here that would argue that it's OK for a white wife to sleep with black men while not allowing her white husband the same? Or am i jumping to false conclusions?
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It is EXTREMELY short sighted to think you need to get into swinging and cannot carry a cuckold open relationship. Yes it is rare . You will never know until you open Pandora's Box and Communicate with your mate. This site usually has the Men pushing the wives. It helps if your Husband has submissive tendencies . A man's ego is delicate . Only you know what you are working with. Some husbands and wives are a hard No when it comes to cuckolding or becoming a cuckoldress . A Strong foundation in a relationship with communication and trust is Paramount. We went as far to write out a contract of rules. We've only just scratched the surface. All of our cuck meetings have been arranged. The day she decides to meet someone and tell me she is fucking them ..is allowed as long as it is open and safe I must deal with it. It is hot to me and scary at the same time. Certainly not for everyone. We have the a Domme/sub lifestyle. We love each other to death and we are feeding each others inner soul. I'd love to know what is going on in your other halves mind. Good Luck , I'd love an update
 
Sheclipsed said:
well, that's what i'm shooting for lol. It's the unicorn / goldilocks scenario. This is all good to know. The longer i'm here, the more i think i should just talk to my husband openly about it. What could it hurt if i share my thoughts openly BEFORE i ever engage in extramarital relationships? Seems just like anyone expressing a curiosity. I think i just needed to be here and hear myself outloud (type/read) instead of just being in my head. Until now, it seemed like if i suggested the potential for me to have a black FWB that it would mean immediate divorce. But i'm probably making that up. It's just a conversation, right? Or am i now underplaying the complexity of that conversation?
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Could be a complex conversation. .You display curiosity that indicates a desire to know and you need to understand you may need to cuck your husband for that knowledge. could he get off on it...if he does like the idea..then the matter becomes simpler and you both get what you want. That you thinking it for me mears it's inevitable :lips:
 
I am divorced 6 years but have been with a man that "shares" for 3 years. It is not a lifestyle that would appeal to him at all....so......I would not say I am a "lifestyle" person, but do like "being someone else" with discretion and safety.
 
FloydBW said:
Could be a complex conversation. .You display curiosity that indicates a desire to know and you need to understand you may need to cuck your husband for that knowledge. could he get off on it...if he does like the idea..then the matter becomes simpler and you both get what you want. That you thinking it for me mears it's inevitable :lips:
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I just don’t agree that every husband who goes along is a cuck. Or wants it that way. I cannot see caging a penis but that’s just me.
If the husband only watches, and you meet a couple, would he at least get to perform and/or receive oral from the other woman?
It’s what I would at least want.
 
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