i guess i've been quite lucky in this regards as the guys i've met have mostly been very charming and we've hit it off great. i'm quite flirty so even if he's not chatty, i can carry the conversation.
mostly i've already decided whether i like him enough from phone/web chats. he'll have to say or do something pretty damn stupid for it to not go further. usually that's something like him being over confident or vain. i don't mind him being a little cocky. even a little arrogant. i don't mind him making me chase him a little
there've been a few that simply misread my husband. they thought he was the submissive type that wanted to be humiliated. or maybe they just expected that i wanted someone really macho and alpha. neither is true and hubby has a way of setting them straight.
there was one guy that got a bit pushy and rough with me when we started kissing. he started saying all this stupid crap about how he'll make me his bitch and worship is cock and how my husband is a useless cunt that aint worth pissing on, blah blah. hubby broke his knuckles.