Question about prostate orgasms

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advice4newbies

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My hubby is a dominant, masculine man in general. I've been shared by him for 9 years, and he's always played a leading role in our play -- screening guys, talking to them, watching, participating and often directing the action. However, a couple of years ago, we met a very special bull. Long story short, that bull dominated both of us. Hubby never did anything overtly bisexual, but he submitted to that bull. Around that time, I caught hubby watching IR porn and working one of my vibrators into his ass. When I confronted him about it, he was embarrassed and angry, but we talked more about it (in bed, while stroking his cock -- always the best time to bring up a touchy subject) and I persuaded him to let me play with his ass. I pegged him with my vib and he had a very intense orgasm. He even cried. I was amazed and turned on. I loved it. I pegged him a few more times, but then he suddenly decided that he said he never wanted to be pegged again. He got angry and defensive. Said it was emasculating and he felt like it was having a negative psychological effect on him. He didn't want to talk about it. I did notice during this time that he was more submissive, both to me and to that special bull I mentioned, but I have no idea if it was related to the pegging or not.

Anyway, I'm sorry for the long background, but I've been wondering what it was that my hubby experienced. What does pegging and a prostate orgasm feel like for guys? How is it different from regular orgasms? How does it make you feel - physically and emotionally - and does it have any lasting after effects, emotional, physical, or psychological?

Appreciate any insight that experienced men can offer here.
 
cumming from anything in your ass is a pretty intense experience, definitely heightened beyond any normal orgasm.

there's a weird stigma with guys and their ass, or submissiveness in general, where its seen as gay or feminine to receive pleasure from it. I'd imagine that if your husband was already feeling uneasy and insecure about the whole thing then enjoying it so much probably ended up weighing on his psyche even more afterwards.

the long term affects definitely differ from person to person, I'd imagine. for me, it took a while to fully accept without feeling completely guilty or embarrassed afterwards, but I was also fairly young. I was 13 the first time I ever (accidentally) stimulated my prostate and came very hard, which left me feeling very very very insecure and unsure of my sexuality.

most advice I can think of for this subject sound pretty cliche and generic, but it really is normal to enjoy prostate stimulation and there's nothing wrong with feeling submissive as a guy. I'd wager your husband is still really turned on by the idea and will come around to it eventually.
 
This makes a lot of sense, and is very helpful. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and your perspective. I'm really curious to see if hubby will be open to exploring this path. I found it extremely hot to give him a prostate orgasm. I was also really turned on by the prospect of him submitting to our bull.

studentofdeers said:
cumming from anything in your ass is a pretty intense experience, definitely heightened beyond any normal orgasm.

there's a weird stigma with guys and their ass, or submissiveness in general, where its seen as gay or feminine to receive pleasure from it. I'd imagine that if your husband was already feeling uneasy and insecure about the whole thing then enjoying it so much probably ended up weighing on his psyche even more afterwards.

the long term affects definitely differ from person to person, I'd imagine. for me, it took a while to fully accept without feeling completely guilty or embarrassed afterwards, but I was also fairly young. I was 13 the first time I ever (accidentally) stimulated my prostate and came very hard, which left me feeling very very very insecure and unsure of my sexuality.

most advice I can think of for this subject sound pretty cliche and generic, but it really is normal to enjoy prostate stimulation and there's nothing wrong with feeling submissive as a guy. I'd wager your husband is still really turned on by the idea and will come around to it eventually.
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advice4newbies said:
This makes a lot of sense, and is very helpful. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and your perspective. I'm really curious to see if hubby will be open to exploring this path. I found it extremely hot to give him a prostate orgasm. I was also really turned on by the prospect of him submitting to our bull.
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Give it time.My wife played with a lifelong friend of mine that is very well hung for years.I remember the first time very well.He wasn't even all the way in before she was cumming.That was also my first ever sloppy seconds. Feeling her all stretched out by his fat cock and getting my crotch soaked by the huge load of semen he had just left deep in my wife was sensory overload for me.In time it led to dvp,me licking wifes clit while he was doing her and finally cleaning her and him.There are alot of emotions for a man to work through in this lifestyle and you have to let him work it out in his own head.If he gets to the point where he wants the bull to fuck him he will likely be hooked.
 
Um, I've had them and yeah, they are definitely different and for me, more intense. Honestly, they're better. And this is the part that is just super-difficult and requires an phenomenal amount of trust in your female partner: the cultural conditioning we all undergo about do-er and do-ee which is strongly tied to a degree of default misogyny and how masculinity is tied to being the do-er sets up a lot of men and women for only seeing our partner through that lens. I definitely feel more "faggot" or "feminine" as a part of getting pegged or sleeping with a guy, and there is a real fear that a female partner will stop seeing me as attractive (especially if she really likes an "Alpha" guy fucking her) and that in general I wind up demoted and discarded. If you're into pegging and role reversal - and you're not going to see him as diminished - then just be steady and reassuring and don't push it (no pun intended) and give him time. The really really scary part about it is that you can easily imagine yourself going down the rabbit hole because the experience is so damn intensely pleasurable that once you've done it, you really want to keep going there. It's the fear you've opened Pandora's box or gotten hooked on a *******, and you're just going to keep sliding down a slippery slope that winds up someplace awful you don't want to be. It takes a while to realize that it doesn't mean you have to give up hunting and fixing cars and put on a pink tutu and march in pride parades 24/7. In the relationship where this really became a part of my life, it crept into our sex life more and more to the point where it was the constant - the PIV might or might not happen, but finishing me off with a big strap-on was always how we wrapped up...there were some other gender-bendy things (lots of thongs and panties - she let me know it was OK by surprising me with VS thongs for Christmas) too. We had started out with a lot of BDSM with me as a top, so it was really a huge, huge role reversal.

If you love him, it turns you on, and you are confident it's not going to change how you see him negatively, just continue to be there and reassure him - heck, let him catch you watching "hands free orgasm" porn - and he'll eventually trust that he really can expose this side of himself to you.

And, yeah, there are a ton of us guys who really would love to have a woman who wanted to share this together.
 
I'm truly grateful for what you've shared, and I completely agree that we are socialized against this kind of role reversal. I love the tip about watching hands free orgasm porn. In fact i have watched it and loved it, so would be easy to have hubby watch with me or "catch" me.


The rabbit hole is scary, for him and for me.

It's scary for me because I'm honestly not sure if i will feel different about him after regular pegging. I am attracted to dominant men, which is why i play with hung black men. While pegging the hubby and watching him have intense prostate orgasms does turn me on, i could imagine it leading to me being less attracted to him over time. So paradoxical -- a turn on that leads to less attraction? even writing it out it doesn't make sense, but that is a concern for me.

cvacuck said:
Um, I've had them and yeah, they are definitely different and for me, more intense. Honestly, they're better. And this is the part that is just super-difficult and requires an phenomenal amount of trust in your female partner: the cultural conditioning we all undergo about do-er and do-ee which is strongly tied to a degree of default misogyny and how masculinity is tied to being the do-er sets up a lot of men and women for only seeing our partner through that lens. I definitely feel more "faggot" or "feminine" as a part of getting pegged or sleeping with a guy, and there is a real fear that a female partner will stop seeing me as attractive (especially if she really likes an "Alpha" guy fucking her) and that in general I wind up demoted and discarded. If you're into pegging and role reversal - and you're not going to see him as diminished - then just be steady and reassuring and don't push it (no pun intended) and give him time. The really really scary part about it is that you can easily imagine yourself going down the rabbit hole because the experience is so damn intensely pleasurable that once you've done it, you really want to keep going there. It's the fear you've opened Pandora's box or gotten hooked on a *******, and you're just going to keep sliding down a slippery slope that winds up someplace awful you don't want to be. It takes a while to realize that it doesn't mean you have to give up hunting and fixing cars and put on a pink tutu and march in pride parades 24/7. In the relationship where this really became a part of my life, it crept into our sex life more and more to the point where it was the constant - the PIV might or might not happen, but finishing me off with a big strap-on was always how we wrapped up...there were some other gender-bendy things (lots of thongs and panties - she let me know it was OK by surprising me with VS thongs for Christmas) too. We had started out with a lot of BDSM with me as a top, so it was really a huge, huge role reversal.

If you love him, it turns you on, and you are confident it's not going to change how you see him negatively, just continue to be there and reassure him - heck, let him catch you watching "hands free orgasm" porn - and he'll eventually trust that he really can expose this side of himself to you.

And, yeah, there are a ton of us guys who really would love to have a woman who wanted to share this together.
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advice4newbies said:
I'm truly grateful for what you've shared, and I completely agree that we are socialized against this kind of role reversal. I love the tip about watching hands free orgasm porn. In fact i have watched it and loved it, so would be easy to have hubby watch with me or "catch" me.


The rabbit hole is scary, for him and for me.

It's scary for me because I'm honestly not sure if i will feel different about him after regular pegging. I am attracted to dominant men, which is why i play with hung black men. While pegging the hubby and watching him have intense prostate orgasms does turn me on, i could imagine it leading to me being less attracted to him over time. So paradoxical -- a turn on that leads to less attraction? even writing it out it doesn't make sense, but that is a concern for me.
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So hot
 
The prostate orgasm for a man feels like what I would expect a g-spot orgasm to feel like.

But your situation is more mental than physical. Your husband feels (justifiably) feels emasculated. You (justifiably) feel it will change your opinion of your husband. Yet you are still here asking detailed questions. Most couples would let the subject drop, but I sense you secretly enjoy the aspect of emasculation.
 
We used to swing. One day while I was fucking a woman missionary another woman placed two fingers below my scrotum about half way to my ass where the prostate is located and began to rub in a circular motion very firmly. I could feel it in my prostate and she keep it up until I exploded, really exploded. Give it a try, it's not invasive and might turn him on.
 
It wasn't my place to experiment with my bulls, they did what they want to me. If they asked me to eat their ass or play with it I would. But i was only ever asked to rim or clean my bulls asses, never to rub a prostate or penetrate them anally.
 
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tiny_tim said:
The prostate orgasm for a man feels like what I would expect a g-spot orgasm to feel like.

But your situation is more mental than physical. Your husband feels (justifiably) feels emasculated. You (justifiably) feel it will change your opinion of your husband. Yet you are still here asking detailed questions. Most couples would let the subject drop, but I sense you secretly enjoy the aspect of emasculation.
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well said,,,,,,,
 
advice4newbies said:
I don't know what "most couples" would do in our situation. I am turned on by the power play and by dominating my husband and but the thought of watching my bulls, and one past bull in particular, dominate him. But hubby now finds that scenario revolting and is moving in the opposite direction. Hence we have stopped playing with my bbc daddies.
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ohh too bad
 
advice4newbies said:
I'm truly grateful for what you've shared, and I completely agree that we are socialized against this kind of role reversal. I love the tip about watching hands free orgasm porn. In fact i have watched it and loved it, so would be easy to have hubby watch with me or "catch" me.


The rabbit hole is scary, for him and for me.

It's scary for me because I'm honestly not sure if i will feel different about him after regular pegging. I am attracted to dominant men, which is why i play with hung black men. While pegging the hubby and watching him have intense prostate orgasms does turn me on, i could imagine it leading to me being less attracted to him over time. So paradoxical -- a turn on that leads to less attraction? even writing it out it doesn't make sense, but that is a concern for me.
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My advice to you - if you really want to continue thinking of your husband like before, respect him and find him attractive-dont peg him. It will make you lose respect and he will think of you differently. It will make him lose confidence and make him less attractive.
 
I imagine he was somewhat embarrassed by it because he was probably enjoying it so much and felt emasculated by it. It’s a whole different feeling from a regular orgasm for a guy, builds slowly and very deep and intense. Our Bull is an expert at making me cum like that when he fucks me, he knows just how to position me, usually having me ride him cowgirl which puts a lot of pressure right on the prostate which makes me melt and turns me into a cum craving slut. He loves to make me cum like this and it feels so wonderful and fulfilling.
 
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