So how many men here and women would be open to a poly relationship? My wife was like that once with her ex. She had him and another guy that she seen and spent the night with once a week but might see him more. Kinda of how I came inot her life. I think it would be hot as hell to try this out with her and a black man that really sparked a fire in her. Where I her husband and him her boyfriend where she would treat him just like a boyfriend in a normal relationship he would have all the benefits that boyfriends get. She could even spend the night with him on occassions. Since most boyfriends and girlfriends don't use condoms that would hot to have her coming home full of him in her. Now this would take lots of trust and understanding of all involved of everyones roll. Hell once our kids are gone it would fun to try having a live in boyfriend for her how many would like that.