Hello - I joined the site about a week ago. You have a great community. Like many on here, I have long enjoyed interracial porn, to the point that it is pretty much the only kind that gets me going. I have also often fantasized about my wife being with a black man, and about me possibly participating as well.
I don’t know if interracial play in some form is a possibility, and if possible would it be beneficial, so I’m seeking opinions and advice from experienced folks on here.
Pertinent info:
My wife and I have been married for almost 19 years. She is incredibly sexy and we love each other deeply. Our sex life is pretty good. She is not into porn anymore (we used to watch/read together) and I am discreet about using porn myself.
Although I think she is very sexy and beautiful, she has a hard time seeing herself that way sometimes. I try to get her to see her own beauty, but I’m not always successful.
We have never brought a 3rd person into the bedroom.
Throughout our married life, she has failed to climax during sex only a handful of times.
She loves receiving oral. About two years ago, I told her that i would go down on her whenever she wanted with no need for reciprocation. Since then, she has asked for it a few times and I have “surprised” her several times.
She has generally taken the lead in the bedroom and usually prefers to finish on top. In the last two years, me giving her oral (usually with her seated and me on my knees) has been part of almost all lovemaking.
She has not expressed specific interest in black men. She does have a friend who has only ever been with black men and is married to one. She refers to her as “you know, the one who only likes black guys.”
She just completed the Natchez Burning trilogy and really liked it. It is a mainstream fiction series but with a serious subtext of interracial sex relationships in the Deep South. I started it myself and the opening scene is with a black man and white woman meeting for a sex secretly.
I am unsure if it is related to the books, but a few weeks ago she (uncharacteristically) asked me “to tell her what to do in bed.” I did and it was very hot, but she has not asked for that again.
So, that’s what I’ve got to share with you all. I’m old and mature enough to realize that not all fantasies can (or should) come true. I am considering broaching the topic with her by asking about some of the scenes in the book and also what drove her to ask me to take charge in the bedroom that time.
The phrase “Pandora’s Box” has been used here and it is fitting. I don’t want to start a conversation that will turn her off, repel her, or make her feel unloved. I’m not even sure I want my fantasy of her being with a black man to come true - what if it changes our relationship in a way that hurts our marriage? Also, am I pursuing this because of what I want, or because it is something that I think she would love?
Anyway, I thank you for you attention and comments.
I don’t know if interracial play in some form is a possibility, and if possible would it be beneficial, so I’m seeking opinions and advice from experienced folks on here.
Pertinent info:
My wife and I have been married for almost 19 years. She is incredibly sexy and we love each other deeply. Our sex life is pretty good. She is not into porn anymore (we used to watch/read together) and I am discreet about using porn myself.
Although I think she is very sexy and beautiful, she has a hard time seeing herself that way sometimes. I try to get her to see her own beauty, but I’m not always successful.
We have never brought a 3rd person into the bedroom.
Throughout our married life, she has failed to climax during sex only a handful of times.
She loves receiving oral. About two years ago, I told her that i would go down on her whenever she wanted with no need for reciprocation. Since then, she has asked for it a few times and I have “surprised” her several times.
She has generally taken the lead in the bedroom and usually prefers to finish on top. In the last two years, me giving her oral (usually with her seated and me on my knees) has been part of almost all lovemaking.
She has not expressed specific interest in black men. She does have a friend who has only ever been with black men and is married to one. She refers to her as “you know, the one who only likes black guys.”
She just completed the Natchez Burning trilogy and really liked it. It is a mainstream fiction series but with a serious subtext of interracial sex relationships in the Deep South. I started it myself and the opening scene is with a black man and white woman meeting for a sex secretly.
I am unsure if it is related to the books, but a few weeks ago she (uncharacteristically) asked me “to tell her what to do in bed.” I did and it was very hot, but she has not asked for that again.
So, that’s what I’ve got to share with you all. I’m old and mature enough to realize that not all fantasies can (or should) come true. I am considering broaching the topic with her by asking about some of the scenes in the book and also what drove her to ask me to take charge in the bedroom that time.
The phrase “Pandora’s Box” has been used here and it is fitting. I don’t want to start a conversation that will turn her off, repel her, or make her feel unloved. I’m not even sure I want my fantasy of her being with a black man to come true - what if it changes our relationship in a way that hurts our marriage? Also, am I pursuing this because of what I want, or because it is something that I think she would love?
Anyway, I thank you for you attention and comments.
