Not sure why the OP deleted his original post about sending a fake email to his wife, trying to make it seem like it was from a friend recommending that she try BBC. Maybe he didn't like my suggestion to BE HONEST and open with his wife?
i had considered that strategy when i was basically scared to tell my fiancé about this fantasy. Was afraid she would lose some respect for me as a man. When I did eventually tell her she was very open about it and not the least bit judgmental. She's not into the idea now but just being able to tell her and share with her something so personal was big for me. Always be honest