re: Need advice on convincing my wife to try BBC
I would like to hear advice on how to get my wife more interested?
I have to assume that you wish to do no damage or harm to your marriage or relationship with your wife, right?
With that in mind, do NOT be devious with this desire; for one, if you encourage her to cheat simply by having someone attempt to seduce her, it
puts you almost in a
no win situation, ok?
...................#1 If it is successful, you find out that your wife will do things behind your back, and establishes a grain of distrust in her.
..................#2 if it fails, and she determines what you tried to do, it does the same thing with her as far as trusting you.
..................#3 if she does it, and she likes it, she may begin seeing other men for sex without your knowledge
..................#4 if she does it, she may like it, thank you, and your sexual experiences are enhanced.
Now, do you like those ODDS? .... 1:4 chance that it works out the way YOU desire it to work? I wouldn't IF I desired no hard to my marriage.
You're asking an awful lot from her by the fact that she's been ONLY with you throughout your marriage. You might desire to leave "well enough alone" until your marriage has matured a bit more.
Start out by finding out what
HER sexual fantasies
ARE ... not try to fulfill YOURS first. She's taking ALL the risk ... injury, disease, broken marriage, etc ... and you really don't know how you will respond when it physically happens.
Do you roll play sexual fantasies? If not, there's the initial step ... stimulating her sexual interests.
Speaking of sexual interests, if being with other men is not her thing ... why expect her to do that for you? Does she have any issues with black men ... afraid of them, biased, etc? Getting her to cross racial barriers AND violate her vows of marriage is one giant leap for her, I'm sure. She gets angry probably because she THINKS you may be getting bored with her OR because you may ask for reciprocation later ... the ladies don't have near the desire to share their men.
So, you need a starting point, and it appears you're wishing to jump to chapter 12 and skip all the homework and study in the other chapters. Be patient with her. Often there's no magic bullet ... its all about TRUST.