My wife still says no ...

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by naughty40, Jul 31, 2014.

  1. naughty40

    naughty40 New Member

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    We watch ir porn , we love ir porn , only porn we watch, but wife says she dont want a bbc ..? Any help ....?
     
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  2. MackJ

    MackJ Well-Known Member Real Person Gold Member

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    I say don't force it. Just let everything play out as she progresses her interest. If not, then let her be.
     
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  3. bigblackbull76

    bigblackbull76 My BBC would bodyslam KingKong off top the Empire Staff Member Real Person Gold Member

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    Keep reading the forum postings from other members who had similar troubles but their wives eventually came around to the decision on their own as to that was what they wanted and where doing it for themselves, not for someone else especially when it is being forced on them. I saw one post where a guy says it finally happened after waiting 10years, but hooray. You have to Live and let live, just let it be.

    Show her love, and your love of the Blackman's large appendage and after a while that small seed planted will begin to take root like the acorn of an oaktree and grow large and take over everything. Be like a gardner and keep watering her mind with kind encouraging words, and shining light on it with images of IR porn and it may happen. They say a flower blooms according to its own nature, and not before its time.

    Otherwise, some seeds are swept up by the birds and eaten before they can take root, or others never have enough deep fertile soil to ferment in to begin with. It may never firmly take root and never happen and that happens in life and nature too is all I'm trying to say but keep trying to plant the idea. And like they say when an idea has reached its time, watch out. But she has to come to that determined idea to do it on her own.
     
  4. Ann4BBC

    Ann4BBC Well-Known Member Real Person Gold Member

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    Nicely put bbb76, didnt realise you were our naturalist on here! Well said on the planting seeds and rooting! X
     
  5. Ann4BBC

    Ann4BBC Well-Known Member Real Person Gold Member

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    I think you might need to explain more about why she says she doesnt want to do it. Like bbb76 says it takes some of us many years to do. I felt the whole thing was a bit embarrassing and seedy and was worried about hubbys true feelings and, to be honest, taking a large cock. So I said I wouldnt go with BBC to begin with and we compromised by us both joining a swingers club near where we live. Going there made the difference, socialising with 'normal' people who were going to rooms with other people made it acceptable. I went with a couple of older white guys which I didnt enjoy and, once I had done that, decided to move on to BBC.
    Find out what her reasons are and you have a chance. X
     
  6. ukblackmail

    ukblackmail Guest

    drop the subject and respect your wife's choice
     
  7. EllaTwo

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    That sounds like when a person comes up against an obstacle they should just give up and go away. That has never been my philosophy. I've always been tenacious. There is nothing wrong with him continuing to try and talking to his wife, unless it starts to create a problem between the two.
     
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  8. Ann4BBC

    Ann4BBC Well-Known Member Real Person Gold Member

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    I agree, I told hubby I didnt want to at the start but am so glad I eventually started. So far we have had lots of fun and only a couple of minor problems so am glad my hubby didnt drop the subject.
    Besides some of us ladies dont want to appear too keen straight away. Imagine if a hubby suggested the wife goes with a black guy and she immediately said 'yes, thats great I will start tomorrow!' Hubby would be a bit taken aback I think.
     
  9. jdflacpl

    jdflacpl Well-Known Member Real Person Gold Member

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    My wife and I started with mfm with white guys after a few disappointments size wise I brought up black guys to which she said NO. it took a few years for her to say maybe. So once while on a long weekend beach trip I set up a black guy to approach her at the bar we were at. He did a great job seducing her and next thing I knew we were back in our room and he was fucking her. It's pretty much been BBC ever since
     
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  10. blkbull

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    why not
     
  11. Torpedo

    Torpedo Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    For starters contrary to what you might read here, the majority of women do not cross the color barrier. If she says she isn't interested take her at her word. After all this is someone that you love and is supposed to be the most important person in your life. Nothing wrong with bringing it up from time to time unless she insists you don't. If she is happy with the quality and quantity she is getting from you take as a compliment. Then ask yourself if she is happy with what she is getting why do you want some other man to bone her. Is it for her or for you?
     
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  12. ukblackmail

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    no it sounds like respecting the other person's wishes and not living your sexual wishes through someone else
     
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  13. naughty40

    naughty40 New Member

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    We are swingers on and off for about 5 years ... almost all meetings is a disappointment .. my wish is for my wife to really enjoy herself ... we never crossed the colour line ..
     
  14. time2try

    time2try Moderator Real Person Gold Member

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    Listen to your wife's wishes and let it go. JMHO of course!
     
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  15. lOCalcpl

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    I am no expert in this field but it sounds like everything this dude said is dead on. Keep having fun with it and either she will or will not come around. In some cases the actual event may not live up to the fantasy so just go with it. It doesn't mean you have to give up. Just have fun with it
     
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  16. Chip

    Chip Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    Maybe your wife has room for only one lover in her life and thats you if she doesnt want black its ok my first wife wanted as many guys as she could get color didnt matter and it was not a fun time.
     
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  17. Astounded

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    Then again, my wife will openly wonder how big a man's cock is, flirts, glances a man up and down, but.....she hates porn - not interested at all in it. So you can count yourself lucky that she watches IR with you.
     
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  18. bigblackbull76

    bigblackbull76 My BBC would bodyslam KingKong off top the Empire Staff Member Real Person Gold Member

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    @Anna4BBC and IOCalcpl;

    Thanks for the reaffirmation. Of course I would love to see every couple and white woman experience the pleasure of a mighty BBC. It took a while for me to come around to this new purpose in life, but after having my body and cock being objectified so much by woman I have been with in the past I have only recently just found it natural to accept the role of being a stud-muffin or the Black Bull in my mind.

    Sometimes these complex concepts of rationalizing something in the mind are better explained using an analogy everyone can better understand and I actually liberally borrowed that analogy from the parable of the seed sower that Jesus relayed in one of the testaments of the bible. But yeah I'm down with naturalism also. The birds do it, the bees do it, so why stop pretending its not natural and just all do it like them animals on the national geographic channel. And in relating to nature my anamorphic personification is that I love to hard-charge and run just the bulls.

    This actually made me think of the idea of having to write a post from the Bull's perspective of coming into this lifestyle.
     
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  19. pienman

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    She'll take the dip one day... dont press the issue let her unfold to bbc naturally
     
  20. MacNfries

    MacNfries Well-Known Member Sweet & Cordial Gold Member

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    Nothing like having a good opinion of one's self ... I like that ... "stud-muffin"! gif_yellowball-rocking.gif
     
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