Thank you so much for the comment, it helps reinforce my belief that this can happen in reality and move beyond my fantasies and into our lives for something I know could make my wife so happy.
And your suggestions as to what to say very closely match my feelings, I mean it really does reflect how I feel about my wife.
Unfortunately a direct conversation on the subject would not be an effective way of bringing my wife the experience she so deserves. I have to get her to bring up the subject or have it brought up by a friend or some way other than me directly saying it. I am certainly ready for a conversation and will capitalize on any opportunity to push it that direction, but it is way too so in, as we have just come back to a good place in our relationship (except for the sex part, and that's next).
At this point she would most likely have a poor reaction to a direct question, either thinking I have an ulterior motive (I don't), or get ******* that I waited until she was older and in her mind less attractive.
A friend that introduced her to the idea, or a guy who approached her slowly and making clear he was not trying or wanting to break up our marriage would be the most effective and quickest way to her pleasuring.