Hello Imagination and thanks for the response. I admit I am lucky to be this far, but nowhere near the end of the journey. She is being very open minded right now, but there is no way she would just jump in the way some do.
My esposa would need to know the guy and be comfortable with him and she says that is the only way. She would not just run an ad on craigslist and meet a guy in a bar and then sleep with him. She wants to know him and unfortunately we do not know anyone and have no real way of just making friends with young black man for it to begin. Not sure what my next move is but I am working on it all the time.
At least your wife will talk to you about it and that is a start. My wife would get mad if I even mentioned it just a few months ago. She is a dedicated mom and wife and just does not understand my desire but she says she is working on it. We just ordered and received a black realistic dildo from ebay and she was intimidated by it at first, but she used it and it was hot. You might try that next. Just order one, it was only $22 delivered and is very nice and very realistic.