What we found works is to vet them online via chat and then phone call before meeting. Exchange pics and ensure that everybody knows what they are getting. Also hubby is very good, and yours probably would be too in vetting them and weeding out the players, liars, and bad ones as he knows what you like. After he determines who is possible match he presents and I see if he was right and if so setup a meeting with no guarantee of sex, but possibility if things go well.
We found strip bars to be a good place to meet up as all kinds in there and people not really paying attention to you plus neutral place. Other places like restaurants, etc. tend to be nerve wracking with other people potentially hearing.
I also find having him find the guys a turn-on after letting him know more of what I want. Also hubbies are really good for pics of you and what looks good. Just some simple advice.