Masculine young cuckold looking for answers

[MasculineWannabeCuck]

Hey there guys. I recently joined this forum and am really loving it already. Let me tell you a little bit about myself and a question or two that I had.

I'm a 24 year old masculine/straight guy. I've been into the cuckolding/IR thing for almost two years now. It's become an addiction. I feel like it's wrong at times, but no matter what, I can't help it. The whole time I got into this, I didn't have a girlfriend. Fast forward to two months ago, I now have a girlfriend.

She's awesome, we both really enjoy each others company. Anyways, for the longest time, I tried to get these thoughts out of my head. But no matter what, I always found myself still masturbating and stuff to this lifestyle. The thoughts never left my head. I think I am addicted.

My sex life with her has been affected as well. I've had a lot of trouble at times staying hard for her. I am not small by any means. But I get hard with her and then it magically goes soft. The only thing I can think of is that I'm so used to seeing black men on white women, that my dick isn't responding to sexual contact because it's not that. Have I lost my mind?

My girl is pretty kinky, I've come to find out and when *******, I've mentioned my fantasy of her doing a MMF three sum, to which she was surprisingly receptive. However, I'm hesitant to tell her my complete desires because it's emasculating and embarassing. What should I do?

Will I be like this forever? Or is it a phase?

 

[Mercurial]

Well I'll start by saying it's not a phase! Loving cuckolding and interracial isn't something that just goes away. I'm afraid you're stuck with it!

Admitting to your girlfriend that you want black, er, other men to fuck her can be emasculating, it's true. Which is why it's probably a good idea not to spill the beans on that quite yet. I'd go forward with the MMF threesome and see how she acts with him. Try to communicate that you're not going to be jealous no matter what, otherwise she'll feel inhibited about how she acts. For instance, let him fuck her first. She'll probably feel obligated to involve you, so letting her suck you off while he's fucking her will be good for everyone. Be a little passive after that, and see if she tries to equalize things, like getting you to fuck her because he got to, or if she gets more into him.

When it's done, ask her if she liked it. She'll probably already have picked up on the fact that unlike most guys, you brought up a MMF threesome instead of a FFM threesome.

You should have a pretty good idea of how into cuckolding she is after that. Good luck!

 

[MacNfries]

... I've been into the cuckolding/IR thing for almost two years now. It's become an addiction. I feel like it's wrong at times, but no matter what, I can't help it. ... I now have a girlfriend ... My sex life with her has been affected as well. I've had a lot of trouble at times staying hard for her ... I've mentioned my fantasy of her doing a MMF three sum, to which she was surprisingly receptive ... I'm hesitant to tell her my complete desires because it's emasculating and embarassing. What should I do?... Will I be like this forever? Or is it a phase?

One thing seems to be true, you do have an addiction, and the problem with addictions is that they tend to control you instead of you controlling them. An addiction occurs when compulsive behavior has adverse consequences. This might not seem serious (a sexual addiction), but obviously you're seeing one of the repercussions of an addiction, your inability to maintain an erection ... and at age 24 with a new girl. So, yes, this is a serious situation which could get worse. Addictions follow a fairly clear guideline of progression, whether they are regarding alcohol, *******, nicotine, sex, etc. The addiction usually affects certain chemicals in your brain stimuli (sort of like a high), which requires constant nourishment. Unfortunately, the longer you have an addiction, the more stimuli it takes to reach those same satisfying "highs" of earlier. Thus it s reasonable to assume that the longer this sexual addiction of yours goes on, the more adverse side effects it will give you. It's like pornography ... as you look at porn to become stimulated and masturbate, you find it takes more graphic types of porn to reach that stimulation later.
So, you should be concerned that you're unable to really sustain a normal sexual relationship with your GF ... and you need to address it, probably with a professional.
....Mac

 

[squirtyshorts]

You have not lost your mind but it is all in your head & that's the problem. Google "your brain on porn".
I've been struggling with the same issues for years now.

 

[MasculineWannabeCuck]

Thanks for all of the input. I understand this has become more of an issue than I have anticipated. I just can't, no matter what seem to get the idea of it out of my head. I feel weird seeking professional help for it, but I know it's just going to get worse...I think judging by your reactions.