Making love no doubt satisfies an emotional hunger that just fucking/sex doesn't satisfy. Some men tend to skip over, or move too quickly, through foreplay and warm-ups ...
I think of it in terms of having a loyal dog ... you don't mind him playing/giving attention to other people, but when you call him, you expect him to respond to you, not someone else because he's
your dog. Its when that dog doesn't respond to you, but to someone else, that you realize he's given his emotionally attachment to someone else, and that can be quite disturbing to some guys.
Women, more than men, desire that added emotional hunger satisfied ... men can often take it or leave it. IMO ... black men (when they're with a white female) also desire that emotional attachment, because that helps them establish and feel more in control. And, if she's a
married white female, it becomes an ego trip for him as well ... knowing/believing he's taken control of a white man's woman.