We thought we would post a few questions, outside of the normal everyday stuff we read here.
We are curious if our experience is similar to others, or are we the exception.
How has your marriage changed since entering into a cuckold lifestyle? Do you feel closer and more confident in your commitment to each other? Is this lifestyle truly a lifestyle or just an occasional occurrence?
For me it has been liberating. I have been married three times and my current hubby has been amazing compared to my last two. Our relationship is based on trust and communication. Other than with our live in and when we have men to the house and my ******* is going to be home, my husband is always there when I play. It pleases me to know he loves to see me with other men, and I love him more for allowing me to be with other men.
I have to admit that there has not been much time since me and my current hubby met that we haven't had another man or men living with us. And that has been nice because my hubby will not ask for sex and the other men do. I prefer sex with my hubby, but I also like that I can have other men. I have asked my hubby what would happen if I ever decided not to have sex with other men. He answered, "I would love you just as much as I do today." And that is why I have sex with other men because I know his love for me will not change.
When I have men over or I have sex with our live-in, my hubby is always happier. He admitted long ago that me having sex with other men is the best way for me to show him that I love him and that he has done well in our relationship. He tells me that when I have sex with other men that he sees it as his reward for loving me as well as he does.
With my previous husbands I could never truly be me, who I knew I was. I always had to attend to their needs. And too often my needs were left unmet. Having lovers in my life has helped me to understand my husband more and it has given me a way to show my husband, in a tangible way, how much I do love him.
My husband has also been able to open up with me more than he did with his ex. Although he and she still date on occasion, he has never really expressed what really turns him on to her. He likes it when I tell others that he has a small one. He also likes it when I call him a good boy. These are things he has asked me to do
for him. His ex, to this day, will not call his small. And she knows he likes that.
We have both agreed that this is not just a lifestyle to us. It is how we live. We both know that me having sex with others pleases both of us. And the fact that my hubby gets to watch most of the time turns us both on. I get a variety of men. I get the aggressive, the macho, the passionate men. And my husband gets to see me enjoy all of them. I do this for both of us. And him allowing it has made us closer and feeling more loved by the other.
Living this type of life has allowed me to feel confident that although my hubby may still have sex with his ex, and on occasion another woman or two, I know I am his and he is mine. And I know that our love is strong enough to allow both of us to have sex with others. We know that this type of living arrangement works well for us and has for 6 years. And after every guy I have sex with, who is not my hubby, I feel more love for my hubby. I know, as well, that every time I have sex with another man or other men that my hubby feels more loved by me. And to me that is very, very important.
Me and hubby both believe that it is because we both have this ability to love others, with each others consent, and that we communicate about everything, we have a much stronger relationship than if we didn't live the type of life we live.