My story kind of fits the original post. I consider myself bi, though I hadn't been with a guy in over two years, and have had a string of girlfriends, the current one fairly serious and going on for more than half a year now. I still feel like there's nothing like being banged by a guy sometimes, though, and a black guy makes it kind of a fantasy very separate from everyday life, and a big guy makes it something really different in the pleasure realm. My girlfriend, who is lukewarm about an open relationship, finally relented as we got more stable with the provision that it could be my BBC fantasy hookups but no other women, and let me go on my own the first time or two, then got intrigued to come out and watch...she is a photographer, and turns out to be quite the voyeur...and the last couple of times has taken her turn, though she is still kind of warming to it. We go to a hotel and the situation was sort of set up on the fringes of the swinger scene, so it is sort of formalized recreational sex...everyone has been tested...and not really three-way, so it is not quite that we "share with their lover in bed" like originally written about.
I'm not going to write a lot on what looks like it's a kind of inactive thread, though I'd be glad to say more if anyone would really appreciate it....