Oh a long time. First we meet with him socially in public - getting to know him - usually over dinner. Lots of talk then!
If he is what we are looking for, we will meet for dinner again, then usually go to a hotel - separate cars, Hubby will drive ours and I'll usually ride with him. There is usually some conversation then. Then more conversation as we are starting to play around once in the room. But of course, that tapers off pretty quickly while we begin to focus on other things