So this is the wife answering this one. In my opinion, its not all, but generally white guys have become too socialized (cant think of better term). They don't act like Men (again, I know, its a generalization). Black Men do. With them, I get to be the woman. And I love them for that. I don't have to answer "Is it ok if I [insert]" because the white guy is afraid he might be forcing me. I don't have to feel guilty about wanting it to be a little rough. I don't have to look at the hurt/confused look in the white guys eyes when he sees me acting slutty.