It is interesting you say that Topsgt.
I can attest to some strong undercurrents of racism even there are men who like the idea of IR sex for fun and sport. These men also seem to or really do oppose open interracial relationships.
There is also the public/private split.
I run in a few social circles and I see many sides of the IR subject. No details in excess, not that they matter, but I have seen on four occasions from those who enjoy having their wives used by black studs in private oppose IR dating and marriage in society. A few I know who are successful folks in my area and who also like to have a black bull fuck the wife raw a lot have also been openly racist when the blacks were not around.
Just talking with other white guys these men would use racial slurs like 'jig' 'coon' 'spade' and you can guess what else. This talking was not about sex nor dating, IR or otherwise, but over real life matters. Chicago, if you know, has it's share of crime and a lot of it is in the black community or effects the black community. I was stunned to hear these men speaking of the blacks in that manner knowing that the same men love to see certain blacks sexually invade and rock their wives' bodies. The topic at hand, by the way, was a rash of shootings and ongoing violence. I myself certainly understand the position on crime and agreed with the theme, there was zero reason to resort to racial name calling against people in general when the matter was being talked on.
This was not the only time such slips of racism were seen by me. That sort of led my thinking to view the men I mention to even view the black men as willing and equal sex partners in group sex play but as sort of an object or play thing. I can't be sure but that is how it looked laid out to me.I really don't know and I don't care to think about it too much.
I have heard this before from others too. The black man can go and be a sports hero and entertain us white folks with his sportsmanship. He can get a few million (a lot to most people of any color) in payment but his check is written by billionaire owners of the team. He is the sports hero so he is allowed to get some groupie white pussy too with no fuss in public. IR sex is okay since he was allowed to get some white ass for being part of the showman network of other sports performers. Yet, at days end he is still just an entertainer and if the legions of white men grouping up to watch his game and be entertained by it are unhappy, he gets kicked out and loses that status.
That last one is a bit goofy and abstract. I don't have time to comment and share my remarks. It does show racism and power issues about sex, IR sex, and what is okay or not still exist in many forms.
You are correct that racism has many layers today. It can be hard for two real people in love to find a fit with others. Most pleasure, by default, is private anyhow. I can list 100 ways this is so, but think about it and you know this is the way of things, IR sex and sex in general especially.Sexual joy is so often a personal or private (small group at biggest)matter.
I will say it is probably easier for many to have a sordid fling for just sexual kicks then an open commitment that can bring other challenges. Thankfully, as I did say, matters are better then years past.