Candy, you know there's a "lifestyle" club in Charleston, SC, don't you? It's called The Social Club of Charleston. You might plan to attend a hospitality night and meet some guys ... no fakes. They're there for the same reason you are. They have a website & e-mail address but I don't have it handy for you.
Also, there's a couple really good adult bars there you might check out ...
Voodoo's and
Mad River Bar & Grille. I think Friday & Saturday nights are best at Voodoo's; it's awesome ... I've never been to Mad River, but I hear it gets pretty wild sometimes.
http://voodootikibar.com/
http://www.madrivercharleston.com/