Wow. I just finished reading this entire thread up to this point. It took me a couple weeks. I have to say I'm incredible amazed, impressed and totally turned on by the life that the two of you have led. Major props to you both. Seriously. What a sexy life. I have millions of thoughts and questions, but want to share one.
Reading 5 years worth of posts in a relatively short period of time has given me an interesting perspective on the thread as a whole. One of the things that is really perplexing is that I have sensed a significant change in the tone of Lisa's posts in the last several months to a year or so (not sure exactly how long). I don't wish to overstep any boundaries, but I sense all of a sudden a fair amount of anger in Lisa, and I don't understand it. I also find the apparent cutting off of hubby from intercourse to be cruel, given how much he loves sloppy seconds. Is that the intent? I know I don't know you folks, but I found it surprising and sad. If I'm wrong, or off base in writing this, I apologize, but I just wanted to share with you what I was sensing, after spending so much time "with you" (i.e. reading your thread) the last couple weeks.
I hope you'll both keep writing as I really enjoy learning of your journey. Your recent posts about your low country adventure are soo hot. You have lived amazing lives!!! May the adventures continue!
I haven't gone back and read many of our posts over the course of writing this thread. I found my way to this one after your post today,Subinsac,and after reading this and my hubby's reply to it,I cried. He's always good to me and he'll always give me the benefit of the doubt,even when I'm a total Bitch. He obviously knows me very well,and he figured out what was going on with me before I knew.
You're right that we have lived amazing lives,and Hubby was right when he said there have been some challenges too. What's tough to come to grips with is that the most difficult challenges we've faced as a couple have come over the past year or so. Why now,after such a long time with minimum issues? I wish I knew. We've had more than a normal amount of difficulty in several areas that might have ******* over to our relationship in ways that weren't productive. I've told about some of it on here,a fire in our home,chaos with a business that was supposed to be sold,and more. It's normal stuff that we all have to deal with,but when it's a lot in a short period of time,it can make people irritable and worse. Something I'm sure I haven't mentioned is the passing of a dear family member. Ouch. There again,normal things we all have to go through in our lives.
I won't try to get myself off the hook by blaming "outside influence",but Hubby knew what he was talking about. It was a guy I called Michael when I wrote about him on here. He didn't mean any harm. He saw us fitting the mold of a typical IR Cuckold couple to a T. He acted accordingly and encouraged me to play the Cuckoldress part to the fullest and humiliate my hubby,because that's what he really wants. In most ways it's perfectly reasonable to understand why he thought that,but he was wrong. I'm not sure how many couples could be defined as typical IR Cuckold couples,but I know there are some significant differences in the way we think about ourselves and each other,and some of the attitudes and opinions I read and hear about. I'll try to make some short statements to explain. I don't think any of this is new to anyone who's read much or most of this thread,but I'll acknowledge that I've also said and done some things that are contradictory. Both of us are conflicted in some ways,but isn't that true with everyone to one degree or another?
First,although we've lived the "lifestyle" for almost all of our time together as a couple,we didn't make a decision to join in or jump on the racist bandwagon. Some aspects of the way we've lived might seem extreme and probably lead some people to assume that we're different than we are. We live like we live,but we don't buy into the hype that's so often associated with the "lifestyle". Both of us reject and detest racism in any form. Being pro-black and "Black Only" sexually doesn't necessitate me being anti-white,and I'm not. I look at it as learned,an acquired taste. Not every black man is my "type". All black men are different,each being an individual like everyone of any other race. Physical attractiveness and personalities matter,and chemistry does also. I've had sex with a lot of black men the first time we've met,the most recent time being this afternoon,and the experience varies a lot. Sometimes it clicks right away,sometimes not as much,and sometimes it can take more time to get used to each other. Sometimes I take a pounding and it's over until the next time,and sometimes there is no next time. My favorite is when it's good enough to want more,and it's better after a few times,after we get used to each other's bodies and get to know other things like strengths,weaknesses,likes,dislikes,and so on. Fuck Buddies are some of the best friends a person can have. I have a shirt that says "I Love Black Men". I've worn it several times,and I can tell that it isn't always interpreted in a sexual sense. I honestly meant it to be,but it isn't always,and there's something I like about that.
I hope this isn't Mumbo Jumbo,because I really tried to say what I meant.
I'm still having some issues with self-expression,but I'll get through it and find the right balance.
I'm obviously capable of getting it wrong sometimes,but I know the guy I'm married to pretty well. There's a simple and virtually fool-proof method I use to determine whether or how much he's turned on by something I do. If his dick's hard,he likes it,regardless of whether he does or doesn't say so.