I thought about my husband's proposal of a threesome.

[latina1985]

My husband planted a seed in my head about having a threesome. I thought about it for a while and I accepted with enthusiasm. I recently watched an interracial porn video between a Latina and a black person and I was very intrigued! My question is, where do we start? Is there a guideline on how to start this types of relationships?

 

[Larry48]

Hello and welcome to the site. I am pretty new here also but I have played around from time to time. I think the best place to start is where you are most comfortable. If your husband planted the idea of a 3some in your head maybe he would consider bringing a bull into the bed first then join in as you and the bull get the festivities going. But, it is probably a both idea for you and your husband both make the decision now that it is just for fun and sex. Sounds like your are both looking for a way to spice it up in bed and this lifestyle can do that, if both partners and the bull agree up front that all are there for a good time and for sex only. Ultimately just talk it out with your husband, decide what you want, look for a bull you both like, set some ground rules, and see what happens. Just remember to have fun and enjoy yourself, both of you.

 

[MacNfries]

re: Should alcoholic drinks be involved for a first time three some?

.....Alcoholic drinks in moderation tend to act as a relaxer, so, unless either of you or your selected male have specific issues with alcohol, I can't see the harm in having a ******* or two. Since this is both your first times, how about just considering taking sex off the table for the first meeting with a prospective partner as its often a compatibility thing anyways. That, in itself, might help everyone relax.

....Would you prefer someone you already have an established friendship with, or would you prefer someone you previously didn't know? Either way, it probably relaxes everyone if they know, going in, that the first meeting is more to chat and either a "get to know" or to renew friendships. You might also consider visiting one of your nearby adult lifestyle clubs on their hospitality night ... again, those are more to bring in prospective members, everyone is clothed, no one feels obligated to perform. And if you meet the right guy, you get his number and arrange to move forward from there. Here's a starting point ... you might be able to take a virtual tour of their establishment as well.

http://www.swinglifestyle.com/swingers/clubs/

 

[BethLuvsBBConly]

From my experience find a guy who has been in threesomes, and he is patient and understanding with beginners.

 

[Larry48]

That is some really great advice and a piece that I overlooked in my earlier reply. I would say find a guy/bull who is experienced also. He should not only patient and understanding but he should be able to give some advice on how to relax, best positions, and so forth. But, even in looking for someone experienced talk to him and follow your instincts and take your time. Rushing into something like this can really be tough so taking your time is always a good thing to do.

 

[MacNfries]

....Men and women are wired differently in thinking through decisions like this ... men being willing to risk to get that instant gratification. One reason guys often have premature ejaculation problems, by the way.
....Men often think they know what they want, then once they've gotten what they want, they tend to become interested in other things and/or become distracted. Not so with a woman ... if she finds a man that rings more of her "bells", she's not going to become distracted or want to move on to other things ... thus the issue of EGO and jealously arises, and the couple sometimes finds out that its not working for both parties ... but, its too late.
....So, I advise couples, who wish to involve others, to move slowly to give everyone the chance to adjust to the new arrangements ... try to avoid putting unnecessary stress on the marriage or relationship.

 

[Larry48]

....Men and women are wired differently in thinking through decisions like this ... men being willing to risk to get that instant gratification. One reason guys often have premature ejaculation problems, by the way.
....Men often think they know what they want, then once they've gotten what they want, they tend to become interested in other things and/or become distracted. Not so with a woman ... if she finds a man that rings more of her "bells", she's not going to become distracted or want to move on to other things ... thus the issue of EGO and jealously arises, and the couple sometimes finds out that its not working for both parties ... but, its too late.
....So, I advise couples, who wish to involve others, to move slowly to give everyone the chance to adjust to the new arrangements ... try to avoid putting unnecessary stress on the marriage or relationship.

Damn good advice...