... there is zero chance you will be able to successfully repress your sexual desires and fantasies. Life does NOT work that way. They will act out elsewhere in life, whether it's through people you meet, situations or environments, attitudes, and/or your own behavior. This is psychology 101.
Splitter, I don't think that's necessarily true. True, she seems to be struggling with some mental issues, but to say
"there is zero chance you will be able to successfully repress your sexual desires & fantasies" would be like telling someone with alcohol or ******* addiction that they have zero chance of abstaining from their afflictions. She's quite aware that she has some mental problems to work out, and from her posts she probably should be pursuing some professional help, but she's far from doomed to repress her inner thoughts & demons. Its highly unlikely, however, that she's going to get that encouragement and support
here, as there are just too many people here that would get self enjoyment out of watching her strike the match if she was soaked in gasoline. Some would even strike it for her.
She's very youthful, and that plays against her as well. When one gets married at a young age, especially when it is to a much older person, they eventually wake up and question what they're missing in life. This is where filling that void with positive activities, that you mention, comes in helpful. I suspect, as you, that the odds appear stacked against her, but we can't ( or shouldn't ) say that all is lost in addressing her problems. She should start by distancing herself from those that would enjoy seeing her fail. By continuing to stay here, she's likely to do exactly as you're predicting. This place is to help add excitement to a strong marriage, not fill a void to a weak & unhappy one.
I use a quote from a scene in JAWS ...
"vanessa, take my word for it, don't look back. Swim, vannessa , swim!"
Mac