I don't understand how a white man could tolerate being a cuckold

I am no little wimp cuck. However, I have no problem with my girl exploring her sexuality. We have 3 children together, all are mine . We have a 24 year relationship together. She knows I'm okay with her playing, but she has to ask permission first.

You actually have the true definition of a cuck relationship which is more than can be said for 90% of the so called other cucks on here.
 
Isn't that the truth. Makes one wonder. If they cannot even get the basics of a 'cuck' relationship right, how the hell do they expect to make anything work.

Exactly. At this time, my wife has a wonderful girlfriend. In time, I'd love for her to have a bull. But, our relationship is based on love...not some fetish based porn induced fantasy. Don't get me wrong, I love the porn fantasies. I just know reality from fantasy.
 
Some of you here really enjoy the cuckold lifestyle.

But I cannot understand for those white males who participate in it, does their inner masculinity not kick in once in a while or is that non-existent? I'm keen to stimulate debate. All thoughts and opinions would be welcomed from any point of view.
I actually agree with you and so does my husband. Some people have said that my husband is a cuck being the fact that I have sex with black men and he knows about it. We disagree because him and I still have sex and it's not a matter of degrading him or anything along those lines. Plus he is able to have sex with other women. Neither of us understand the cock cages and degrading though and how it could be exciting for someone but in the end I guess to each their own.
 
Exactly. At this time, my wife has a wonderful girlfriend. In time, I'd love for her to have a bull. But, our relationship is based on love...not some fetish based porn induced fantasy. Don't get me wrong, I love the porn fantasies. I just know reality from fantasy.

I think there lies the problem. 'porn induced fantasy'. Whilste many call themselves cucks. The reality is more further from that truth. The meaning of a 'cuck' isn't some fetish of breeding, or even being subservient to a guy. Many on here can not tell the differnce between having a small fetish, having a precondition. Of say, being subservient, and actually having a full blown fetish which may actualy has more to do with porn inspired reality than reality its self.

If you break down the majority of those claiming to be cucks into groups, what you end up with is a very small group of genuine people who can say they are actualy a cuckold and a very large group divided into the groups of kinks, fetishes and 'WTF' fantasies. Nothing wrong in any of that. People just need to be honest with themselves and others and stop the mis-labeling of their needs and wants.

In the twilight zone of porn many men use a specific gender of porn to drive their desires. What they usualy fail to do is know the differnce of 'made to entertain' porn, and what happens in real life. (There are hundreds of posts and . clip/pictures baring out that very point.) Not just on B2W, but on nearly every single interracial or 'cuckold breeding site' on the web. Does porn have its uses. Course. But. And its a big but( yes pun intended). Porn never matches real life hence the constant need to drive their fantasies to an even greater height.Which in turn brings out the 'WTF' posts we sadly see on here all too frequently.

Despite what many on here try to say there is Empirical evidence that cuckoldry isn't as far into society as many of the 'cucks' would have you believe.

Cuckoldry is incredibly rare among humans
New study finds that only 1-2% of men unknowingly raise children who aren't theirs .
Annalee Newitz - 4/5/2016, 11:13 PM

142523.11452408_1000X1000-640x427.jpg

Science proves that there's only about a 1% chance that your wife is having Satan's baby instead of yours.
Rosemary's Baby

Reading the internet, or even perusing the scientific literature, you'd get the idea that people are constantly cheating on their spouses. Indeed, scientists have estimated that anywhere from 10-30 percent of men are unknowingly raising children who are not their own. This situation is referred to as cuckoldry, or scientifically as "extra-pair paternity." Now, however, it appears that our estimates of cuckoldry rates were way off.

A new survey published in Trends in Ecology and Evolution sums up a number of recent studies that show the actual rate of cuckolds in the general population, based on genetic testing and ancestor research, is 1-2 percent. This challenges evolutionary psychologists who have suggested that human women "routinely ‘shop around’ for good genes by engaging in extra-pair copulation to obtain genetic benefits." This idea came in part from studying socially monogamous songbirds, which mate for life but have roughly 1 in 10 babies as a result of "extra pair" matings.

Scientists were so unwilling to believe that human women were different from songbirds that some suggested the discrepancy between expected and actual rates of cuckoldry was a recent development caused by birth control. One study asserted that women who cheat may be getting pregnant less often than they would have historically. But that assumption turned out to be wrong as well. As the study authors write, human extra-pair paternity rates "have stayed near constant at around 1% across several human societies over the past several hundred years."

The researchers call this a "puzzle," because contraceptives would have been far less available centuries ago. Why are there so few cuckolds? The authors speculate that women may be remaining faithful due to "anti-cuckoldry tactics, such as male sexual jealousy, religious practices that regulate female sexuality, and strongly negative reactions towards female adultery." It's also possible that they fear sexually transmitted diseases, spousal abuse, divorce, or "reduced paternal investment by the social partner or his close relatives if the infidelity was discovered."

Ultimately, conclude the researchers, "the (potential) genetic benefits of extra pair children are unlikely to be offset by the (potential) costs of being caught, particularly in such a long-lived species as humans with heavy offspring dependence and massive parental investment." Basically, women aren't cheating because the costs are too great. Or, you know, it could just be that researchers have completely misunderstood the role of extra-marital sex in women's lives.

Trends in Ecology and Evolution, 2016. DOI: 10.1016/j.tree.2016.03.004 [PDF]

Heres a nice wiki piece I remembered from a conversation a while ago.

Theories in psychology
Psychology regards cuckold fetishism as a variant of masochism, the cuckold deriving pleasure from being humiliated.[11][12] In Freudian analysis, cuckold fetishism is the eroticization of the fears of infidelity and of failure in the man's competition for procreation and the affection of females.[citation needed] In his book Masochism and the Self, psychologist Roy Baumeister advanced a Self Theory analysis that cuckolding (other forms of sexual masochism) among otherwise mentally healthy people was a form of escapism. According to this theory, cuckold fetishists are relieving themselves of the stress of the burden of their social role and escaping into a simpler, less-expansive position.

Ok whats point am I making. Well its all rather simple. If the cucks can not even get the basic concept of what they are correct, how can they attach a label? Being that they have a mis- guided assumption based on porn and fantasy driven inter-changes with other people doing exactly the same concerning their sexual status.

And its with that point we end up with B2W being bombarded with some of the most ridiculous threads, comments and chat concerning matters that have nothing to do with actual cuckoldry and everything to do with that persons perversions/fantasies/hopes/ wishes/fetishes.

Thats my two cents worth any way.

ps sorry it was a war and peace novel or should that be war and a piece? LOL
 
I think there lies the problem. 'porn induced fantasy'. Whilste many call themselves cucks. The reality is more further from that truth. The meaning of a 'cuck' isn't some fetish of breeding, or even being subservient to a guy. Many on here can not tell the differnce between having a small fetish, having a precondition. Of say, being subservient, and actually having a full blown fetish which may actualy has more to do with porn inspired reality than reality its self.

If you break down the majority of those claiming to be cucks into groups, what you end up with is a very small group of genuine people who can say they are actualy a cuckold and a very large group divided into the groups of kinks, fetishes and 'WTF' fantasies. Nothing wrong in any of that. People just need to be honest with themselves and others and stop the mis-labeling of their needs and wants.

In the twilight zone of porn many men use a specific gender of porn to drive their desires. What they usualy fail to do is know the differnce of 'made to entertain' porn, and what happens in real life. (There are hundreds of posts and . clip/pictures baring out that very point.) Not just on B2W, but on nearly every single interracial or 'cuckold breeding site' on the web. Does porn have its uses. Course. But. And its a big but( yes pun intended). Porn never matches real life hence the constant need to drive their fantasies to an even greater height.Which in turn brings out the 'WTF' posts we sadly see on here all too frequently.

Despite what many on here try to say there is Empirical evidence that cuckoldry isn't as far into society as many of the 'cucks' would have you believe.

Cuckoldry is incredibly rare among humans
New study finds that only 1-2% of men unknowingly raise children who aren't theirs .
Annalee Newitz - 4/5/2016, 11:13 PM

142523.11452408_1000X1000-640x427.jpg

Science proves that there's only about a 1% chance that your wife is having Satan's baby instead of yours.
Rosemary's Baby

Reading the internet, or even perusing the scientific literature, you'd get the idea that people are constantly cheating on their spouses. Indeed, scientists have estimated that anywhere from 10-30 percent of men are unknowingly raising children who are not their own. This situation is referred to as cuckoldry, or scientifically as "extra-pair paternity." Now, however, it appears that our estimates of cuckoldry rates were way off.

A new survey published in Trends in Ecology and Evolution sums up a number of recent studies that show the actual rate of cuckolds in the general population, based on genetic testing and ancestor research, is 1-2 percent. This challenges evolutionary psychologists who have suggested that human women "routinely ‘shop around’ for good genes by engaging in extra-pair copulation to obtain genetic benefits." This idea came in part from studying socially monogamous songbirds, which mate for life but have roughly 1 in 10 babies as a result of "extra pair" matings.

Scientists were so unwilling to believe that human women were different from songbirds that some suggested the discrepancy between expected and actual rates of cuckoldry was a recent development caused by birth control. One study asserted that women who cheat may be getting pregnant less often than they would have historically. But that assumption turned out to be wrong as well. As the study authors write, human extra-pair paternity rates "have stayed near constant at around 1% across several human societies over the past several hundred years."

The researchers call this a "puzzle," because contraceptives would have been far less available centuries ago. Why are there so few cuckolds? The authors speculate that women may be remaining faithful due to "anti-cuckoldry tactics, such as male sexual jealousy, religious practices that regulate female sexuality, and strongly negative reactions towards female adultery." It's also possible that they fear sexually transmitted diseases, spousal abuse, divorce, or "reduced paternal investment by the social partner or his close relatives if the infidelity was discovered."

Ultimately, conclude the researchers, "the (potential) genetic benefits of extra pair children are unlikely to be offset by the (potential) costs of being caught, particularly in such a long-lived species as humans with heavy offspring dependence and massive parental investment." Basically, women aren't cheating because the costs are too great. Or, you know, it could just be that researchers have completely misunderstood the role of extra-marital sex in women's lives.

Trends in Ecology and Evolution, 2016. DOI: 10.1016/j.tree.2016.03.004 [PDF]

Heres a nice wiki piece I remembered from a conversation a while ago.

Theories in psychology
Psychology regards cuckold fetishism as a variant of masochism, the cuckold deriving pleasure from being humiliated.[11][12] In Freudian analysis, cuckold fetishism is the eroticization of the fears of infidelity and of failure in the man's competition for procreation and the affection of females.[citation needed] In his book Masochism and the Self, psychologist Roy Baumeister advanced a Self Theory analysis that cuckolding (other forms of sexual masochism) among otherwise mentally healthy people was a form of escapism. According to this theory, cuckold fetishists are relieving themselves of the stress of the burden of their social role and escaping into a simpler, less-expansive position.

Ok whats point am I making. Well its all rather simple. If the cucks can not even get the basic concept of what they are correct, how can they attach a label? Being that they have a mis- guided assumption based on porn and fantasy driven inter-changes with other people doing exactly the same concerning their sexual status.

And its with that point we end up with B2W being bombarded with some of the most ridiculous threads, comments and chat concerning matters that have nothing to do with actual cuckoldry and everything to do with that persons perversions/fantasies/hopes/ wishes/fetishes.

Thats my two cents worth any way.

ps sorry it was a war and peace novel or should that be war and a piece? LOL


Well someone has certainly done their homework! LoL
I certainly agree with you. Myself, I find the porn entertaining. Some is downright disturbing, though. (My twisted mind still enjoys it)

Fantasy is fantasy, nothing more and nothing less. As for the reality of it, one only needs to open their eyes. Seriously. Just look around.

In truth, I imagine most so-called "cuckold" relationships are better labeled as polyamorous relationships. Nothing wrong with that at all, in my opinion. As long as everyone's needs are met, and everyone is happy, then it's good.
 
Well someone has certainly done their homework! LoL
I certainly agree with you. Myself, I find the porn entertaining. Some is downright disturbing, though. (My twisted mind still enjoys it)

Fantasy is fantasy, nothing more and nothing less. As for the reality of it, one only needs to open their eyes. Seriously. Just look around.

In truth, I imagine most so-called "cuckold" relationships are better labeled as polyamorous relationships. Nothing wrong with that at all, in my opinion. As long as everyone's needs are met, and everyone is happy, then it's good.

Thank you.

Heres the rub. YOU know its porn and fantasy. Now, whether or not it is a little OTT say, you know its not a viable reality. So as a result you can enjoy your relationship with or without another person in your relationship. Also you have agreed boundries with your partner. All in all, a very sensible and healthy relationship and manner.

That can not be said for waaaayyy to many wanabee/fantasy/porn driven cucks that frequent sites such as b2W. And there lies the danger. The danger of escalation of not only a unreal want or fantasy spilling into daily life, but also into any relationship that doesn't have a sound or solid healthy understanding ( of what being a cuckold is V a fetish and how it will effect the relationship) and base to support causing irreparable damage to all parties .

You are right about polyamorous relationships concerning most. The frightening thing is, when people start to believe their own warped or distorted idea's of what kind of person and relationship they need or want. All while placing their 'fetish under a one caption fits all ideal.

I have read a few cuckold sites claiming there are many forms of cuckoldry... There isn't. Thats a plain fact. Not all cuckolds are men; not all need to be married. But some level of commitment is necessary to enhance the erotic high of the sexual double standard. Cuckolding is often correlated with other fetishes such as exhibitionism and voyeurism and humiliation. This makes sense since “seeing” and “showing” are key components of the cuckolding practice.

For me it doesn't matter whether you are a submissive who gets their jollies being humilated and treated like crap. Just stop calling it cuckoldry and call it for it really is.

Here is a list I found which was interesting. Though please say if I am boring you with these posts.

Facts and Fallacies

1. Destination indentity: Cuckolding usually emerges from swinging

2. The cuckoldress is usually never out of control

3. The cuckoldress can appear conservative

4. Many are not sexually satisfied with their primary partners

5. The cuckoldress wants better sex, not necessarily more sex

6. The cuckolding act is a kin to claiming female sexual power

7. The cuckoldress tends to carefully select her bulls

8. She can be submissive to her bulls (i.e., lovers)

9. She can have one or more bulls for a long period of time.

10. There is a clear sexual double-standard in her marriage

11. Female submissives do exist (i.e., cuckqueans)

12. The cuckoldress projects sexual inadequacy back onto her partner

13. The male is called a cuckold or cuckoldboy

14. The cuckoldress is primarily in control but she and her mate agree on limits

15. The couple usually sign a contract

16. Many cuckoldresses control all aspects of their relationships, including finances

17. Many restrict their male partner’s sexual capacity with a chastity belt

18. The cuckoldress may allow her male counterpart to masturbate, but usually infrequently

19. The cuckoldress may engage her cuckold to participate in her sexual activities with a bull but always in a limited and humiliating way

20. Cuckolds may be required to play a feminine role at home (e.g., do the dishes while the cuckoldress gets ready for her date with a bull).

21. Cuckolds are oftentimes powerful men outside their relationships with cuckoldresses

Origin

1. Variant of masochism: The cuckold derives pleasure from being humiliated; the cuckoldress from humiliating.

2. Freud (1922): Cuckold fetishism is the eroticization of the fears of infidelity, and of failure in the male’s competition for procreation and the affection of females.

3. Baumeister (1989), in his book Masochism and the Self: A form of escapism in otherwise mentally healthy people. Cuckold fetishists are relieving themselves of the stress of the burden of their social role and escaping into a simpler, less-expansive position.

4. Freud and Baumeister agreed that the cuckold fetishist seeks pleasure both from the act of being humiliated and by giving pleasure to his lover(s). But cuckolding can be summed up psychologically as “distributing sexual humiliation to the cuckold.”

5. Cuckolds and cuckoldress may have experienced abuse, sexual and otherwise as children

6. Many have issues with control and power

7. Associations were usually made in their youth between control, humiliation, and the erotica

THE HOT WIFE

There seems to be even less material in the professional literature on the hot wife. And while many use the term interchangeably with cuckoldress, others such as Hathaway (2013), author of The Education of a Cuckold, take issue with this. For example, the author believes that the hot wife is more of a projection of her husband’s “slutty desires” in a woman than is the cuckoldress. And unlike the dominatrix and the cuckoldress, the hot wife is more about sex, and less about power and control. She may also be much more sexually active, more sexually flamboyant or provocative, and more sexually aggressive in her pursuit of men. For example, while a cuckoldress or a well compartmentalized dominatrix may look and dress like the girl next door in public, the hot wife tends to always be on the make, dressing as sexually alluring as possible—many are exhibitionistic. The hot wife also tends to be less discriminating in her choice of men than are dominatrices and cuckoldresses. And the hot wife may take more risks to quench her sexual appetite, oftentimes putting herself and her primary partner in danger.

Emanating from the swinger’s lifestyle, the hot wife is basically a married female swinger or a wife who has sex with men other than her husband with her husband’s permission. The hot wife is considered by many to be hypersexual and in some camps, a sex addict. Clearly she is less controlled than her fellow female dominants. She is much more liberal in her sexual control of her primary partner and may allow him to have frequent sex and to even join her in orgies or threesomes. She is far less likely than the cuckoldress to require her partner to wear a chastity belt. The hot wife is not as concerned with emasculating him as she is in reaching her sexual goals. While the hot wife and her primary partner will attempt to outline certain terms of their dynamic, formalized contracts are not considered as necessary as they are to the cuckold/cuckoldress couple. Let’s examine some of the characteristics of hot wives:

Facts and Fallacies

1. The hot wife desires more sex, not necessarily better sex

2. The hot wife is at times, out of control

3. Hit wives dress the part

4. Power is not major focus for the hot wife

5. The hot wife is usually on the make

6. The hot wife has her mate’s permission to sexually engage other men

7. The hot wife might not be very discriminating in choosing her lovers

8. She is primarily interested in sexual freedom

9. She may have sex with her husband or primary partner frequently

10. She may have sex with him infrequently

11. She may include him directly in her sexual activities

12. Not contract is necessary

13. A hot wife can evolve into a cuckoldress, but a cuckoldress will almost never become a hot wife

14. There’s less integrity in the hot wife’s process.

15. There is often little empathy

16. The hot wife operates from a more primitive level

17. The hot wife may also be prone to be engage in other addictive behaviors, even substance abuse

Origin

1. Usually develops out of the swinging lifestyle

2. Closer to sexual addiction

3. Related to humiliation

4. Anti-control/rebelliousness

5. Possible bipolar disorder

6. Possible narcissistic, histrionic traits and tendencies

7. Exhibitionistic qualities

8. Oftentimes substance use/abuse is involved in her activities

9. Sexual abuse

10. Sex and self-esteem correlated

11. Power and control through her sexual prowess more so than male domination
Stephen J. Betchen, D.S.W., is the author of the book Magnetic Partners.

In Print: Intrusive Partners - Elusive Mates: The Pursuer-Distancer Dynamic in Couples
 
Thank you.

Heres the rub. YOU know its porn and fantasy. Now, whether or not it is a little OTT say, you know its not a viable reality. So as a result you can enjoy your relationship with or without another person in your relationship. Also you have agreed boundries with your partner. All in all, a very sensible and healthy relationship and manner.

That can not be said for waaaayyy to many wanabee/fantasy/porn driven cucks that frequent sites such as b2W. And there lies the danger. The danger of escalation of not only a unreal want or fantasy spilling into daily life, but also into any relationship that doesn't have a sound or solid healthy understanding ( of what being a cuckold is V a fetish and how it will effect the relationship) and base to support causing irreparable damage to all parties .

You are right about polyamorous relationships concerning most. The frightening thing is, when people start to believe their own warped or distorted idea's of what kind of person and relationship they need or want. All while placing their 'fetish under a one caption fits all ideal.

I have read a few cuckold sites claiming there are many forms of cuckoldry... There isn't. Thats a plain fact. Not all cuckolds are men; not all need to be married. But some level of commitment is necessary to enhance the erotic high of the sexual double standard. Cuckolding is often correlated with other fetishes such as exhibitionism and voyeurism and humiliation. This makes sense since “seeing” and “showing” are key components of the cuckolding practice.

For me it doesn't matter whether you are a submissive who gets their jollies being humilated and treated like crap. Just stop calling it cuckoldry and call it for it really is.

Here is a list I found which was interesting. Though please say if I am boring you with these posts.

Facts and Fallacies

1. Destination indentity: Cuckolding usually emerges from swinging

2. The cuckoldress is usually never out of control

3. The cuckoldress can appear conservative

4. Many are not sexually satisfied with their primary partners

5. The cuckoldress wants better sex, not necessarily more sex

6. The cuckolding act is a kin to claiming female sexual power

7. The cuckoldress tends to carefully select her bulls

8. She can be submissive to her bulls (i.e., lovers)

9. She can have one or more bulls for a long period of time.

10. There is a clear sexual double-standard in her marriage

11. Female submissives do exist (i.e., cuckqueans)

12. The cuckoldress projects sexual inadequacy back onto her partner

13. The male is called a cuckold or cuckoldboy

14. The cuckoldress is primarily in control but she and her mate agree on limits

15. The couple usually sign a contract

16. Many cuckoldresses control all aspects of their relationships, including finances

17. Many restrict their male partner’s sexual capacity with a chastity belt

18. The cuckoldress may allow her male counterpart to masturbate, but usually infrequently

19. The cuckoldress may engage her cuckold to participate in her sexual activities with a bull but always in a limited and humiliating way

20. Cuckolds may be required to play a feminine role at home (e.g., do the dishes while the cuckoldress gets ready for her date with a bull).

21. Cuckolds are oftentimes powerful men outside their relationships with cuckoldresses

Origin

1. Variant of masochism: The cuckold derives pleasure from being humiliated; the cuckoldress from humiliating.

2. Freud (1922): Cuckold fetishism is the eroticization of the fears of infidelity, and of failure in the male’s competition for procreation and the affection of females.

3. Baumeister (1989), in his book Masochism and the Self: A form of escapism in otherwise mentally healthy people. Cuckold fetishists are relieving themselves of the stress of the burden of their social role and escaping into a simpler, less-expansive position.

4. Freud and Baumeister agreed that the cuckold fetishist seeks pleasure both from the act of being humiliated and by giving pleasure to his lover(s). But cuckolding can be summed up psychologically as “distributing sexual humiliation to the cuckold.”

5. Cuckolds and cuckoldress may have experienced abuse, sexual and otherwise as children

6. Many have issues with control and power

7. Associations were usually made in their youth between control, humiliation, and the erotica

THE HOT WIFE

There seems to be even less material in the professional literature on the hot wife. And while many use the term interchangeably with cuckoldress, others such as Hathaway (2013), author of The Education of a Cuckold, take issue with this. For example, the author believes that the hot wife is more of a projection of her husband’s “slutty desires” in a woman than is the cuckoldress. And unlike the dominatrix and the cuckoldress, the hot wife is more about sex, and less about power and control. She may also be much more sexually active, more sexually flamboyant or provocative, and more sexually aggressive in her pursuit of men. For example, while a cuckoldress or a well compartmentalized dominatrix may look and dress like the girl next door in public, the hot wife tends to always be on the make, dressing as sexually alluring as possible—many are exhibitionistic. The hot wife also tends to be less discriminating in her choice of men than are dominatrices and cuckoldresses. And the hot wife may take more risks to quench her sexual appetite, oftentimes putting herself and her primary partner in danger.

Emanating from the swinger’s lifestyle, the hot wife is basically a married female swinger or a wife who has sex with men other than her husband with her husband’s permission. The hot wife is considered by many to be hypersexual and in some camps, a sex addict. Clearly she is less controlled than her fellow female dominants. She is much more liberal in her sexual control of her primary partner and may allow him to have frequent sex and to even join her in orgies or threesomes. She is far less likely than the cuckoldress to require her partner to wear a chastity belt. The hot wife is not as concerned with emasculating him as she is in reaching her sexual goals. While the hot wife and her primary partner will attempt to outline certain terms of their dynamic, formalized contracts are not considered as necessary as they are to the cuckold/cuckoldress couple. Let’s examine some of the characteristics of hot wives:

Facts and Fallacies

1. The hot wife desires more sex, not necessarily better sex

2. The hot wife is at times, out of control

3. Hit wives dress the part

4. Power is not major focus for the hot wife

5. The hot wife is usually on the make

6. The hot wife has her mate’s permission to sexually engage other men

7. The hot wife might not be very discriminating in choosing her lovers

8. She is primarily interested in sexual freedom

9. She may have sex with her husband or primary partner frequently

10. She may have sex with him infrequently

11. She may include him directly in her sexual activities

12. Not contract is necessary

13. A hot wife can evolve into a cuckoldress, but a cuckoldress will almost never become a hot wife

14. There’s less integrity in the hot wife’s process.

15. There is often little empathy

16. The hot wife operates from a more primitive level

17. The hot wife may also be prone to be engage in other addictive behaviors, even substance abuse

Origin

1. Usually develops out of the swinging lifestyle

2. Closer to sexual addiction

3. Related to humiliation

4. Anti-control/rebelliousness

5. Possible bipolar disorder

6. Possible narcissistic, histrionic traits and tendencies

7. Exhibitionistic qualities

8. Oftentimes substance use/abuse is involved in her activities

9. Sexual abuse

10. Sex and self-esteem correlated

11. Power and control through her sexual prowess more so than male domination
Stephen J. Betchen, D.S.W., is the author of the book Magnetic Partners.

In Print: Intrusive Partners - Elusive Mates: The Pursuer-Distancer Dynamic in Couples

Again, a most impressive example of homework done. While I've heard all of these terms, and more, I would wager not many have taken the time to try to understand any of these points.

My wife and I also engage in a BDSM lifestyle where she is submissive to me. During my journey through the BDSM lifestyle, I've come across a similar lack of understanding in many people. Especially with the post 50 shades crowd.

As with all aspects of life, if emotional, intellectual, and physical needs are not being maintained, there cannot be a healthy relationship. We must be able to distinguish between fantasy and reality. It's that simple.
 
Again, a most impressive example of homework done. While I've heard all of these terms, and more,

Thank you. Most kind of you to say so.

As with all aspects of life, if emotional, intellectual, and physical needs are not being maintained, there cannot be a healthy relationship. We must be able to distinguish between fantasy and reality. It's that simple.

Great reply. I fully agree that the three basics to a healthy relationship need to be satisfied and with both partners to give any relationship a good solid base one which to build.

I would wager not many have taken the time to try to understand any of these points
.

They just don't want to take the trouble because it takes time to examine ones self. I call it the microwave meal syndrome. It has to be now, it has to be easy. and the filling can be anything so long as I don't have to work to get it.

My wife and I also engage in a BDSM lifestyle where she is submissive to me. During my journey through the BDSM lifestyle, I've come across a similar lack of understanding in many people. Especially with the post 50 shades crowd.

See. I said you had a healthy relationship. Though you are certainly right with the Iphone generation as I call it. Their understanding of the world is governed by what others tell them it is. Whether its correct or not. They seem to lack the mental maturity to fathom or even research the most basic of sexualities or their existance.
 
Thank you. Most kind of you to say so.



Great reply. I fully agree that the three basics to a healthy relationship need to be satisfied and with both partners to give any relationship a good solid base one which to build.

.

They just don't want to take the trouble because it takes time to examine ones self. I call it the microwave meal syndrome. It has to be now, it has to be easy. and the filling can be anything so long as I don't have to work to get it.



See. I said you had a healthy relationship. Though you are certainly right with the Iphone generation as I call it. Their understanding of the world is governed by what others tell them it is. Whether its correct or not. They seem to lack the mental maturity to fathom or even research the most basic of sexualities or their existance.


I have absolutely loved this conversation! Thank you so much for your insight and the information you shared. Seldom do I ever come across anyone so well versed in this subject. You are absolutely amazing!
 
I have absolutely loved this conversation! Thank you so much for your insight and the information you shared. Seldom do I ever come across anyone so well versed in this subject. You are absolutely amazing!

Wow. 'blushing now'. Thank you for your kind words. And yes I also enjoyed our conversation.
 
A husband's heart is bound to swell with happiness and pride when he sees how happy and content his wife is after concluding a durable Black Cock training session with her lover.

obviously that guy needs to be taught which end the pussy in at or maybe he has been watching to much porn. I feel sorry for Black men because of how the porn industry portrays them and i know from experience that many of them know how to please a woman
 
You raise a very important question. In my case, I have pretty well lost my sense of masculinity. I see Black Men as real alpha men that are far Superior to white males. This means that us white males, when compared to Black Men, must assume our status as white boys. I believe that, as a white boy, I am inferior and subordinate to Black Men. This means that only Black Men deserve pussy, and white boys, like me, are undeserving of pussy. When standing next to a Black Man, I have only a sense of reverence and humility. A Black Man’s presence makes me lose any sense of manhood and makes me realize my inferiority to a real man.
So that means you have no education a tiny weiner and are a little bitch
 
Well are you married? And if so, consider your marriage co- existing. She's getting her cake and eating too, so why don't you do the same? Get you a black woman and then you'll understand why white women prefer black men. So instead of feeling inferior, you find yourself becoming an equal towards your wife? And maybe that will help create a bond and a sense of understanding you can share with your wife, until then you'll never measure up and your wife will look at you as nothing cease to exist. Least have something in common with her...get a black pussy and the marriage may evolve become stronger?
 
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