I disagree! It is much more difficult than you would believe for a number of reasons. When you are a middle-aged couple or white female living in a primarily white suburban area, the chances of meeting the right black man are slim. If you do not frequent bars a lot, are not into adult clubs, and are selective in the people you meet, then it becomes even more difficult. My wife wants an educated, clean, discreet, respectful, attractive, safe, disease free, black man to satisfy her curiousity. Most of the responses we have gotten from on-line services, ads, chat rooms, etc. have not provided any opportunties with anyone close by and most are not the type she would want to meet. How do you meet someone, build trust, and feel comfortable enough to take that next step? She is not going to hook up with just anyone because he is black.
You can disagree all you want, but when it comes down to it, you aren't looking you are hoping. You wanna know how you can tell if a man (black or white) is educated talk them and dont just assume by looks. This is a stereotype that a lot of non-black people have about black men. If we have dreads, bald heads, baggy clothing or maybe we don't speak the way you think a educated person should speak then hell they must be ignorant or may not have passed the the 9th grade or some other stereotype . They would be wrong, something that the larger white society has failed to realize or think about is this, black people move between sometimes three worlds one where its all black and we have our flare our own way of speaking , one where we work and the other is when we are in the company of divergent ethnic groups. If that does not speak of educated i dont know what does , to know when to do both or all three is intellect at its finest. No i am not saying go fuck the first black man you see, just like i would not fuck the first white woman i see, but if you are over 30 then you should have some instincts about people and maybe you should use them. So in short put your big boy's or girl's underwear on. Not trying to be disrespectful here, just a observation.