You're welcome for my grammar tips babe, glad you can use them xxx
Regarding your wife, it sounds like she has a dual conflict in her emotions. The guilt she feels about cheating, and her attraction to black men. I felt very guilty at first too, when I slept with a black man, and my husband didn't even approve so we are getting a divorce. If he were more understanding, like you, maybe we would be still together.
If your wife does decide to experience black men, I suggest you make sure that you are fully understanding of her wishes and also a good provider. Otherwise there is always the risk that she will leave you for a more successful black man.