How to get my lady to partake !?

[myshylady]

First we've been together for 12 years and are in our early 30's. She lost her virginity to a BBC and due to a rough patch in our relationship which caused a split up for awhile she has experienced many more. When we got back together and after a little time I asked about her sex life during that period. I never felt hornier after all the BBC encounters she told me about. Holy *******, down the road her co-worker is a black stud and she hooked up with him. I remember her coming home one night after being with him and the look on her face was pure bliss. She played with him and two others while together but suddenly it ended. No more encounters. How can I get us black owned or at the very least play again.