Good idea!
Yes I agree role-playing is good but how can I get my partner to accidentally see IR porn?
UPDATE!!!!
This is just after two drinks. One thing led to another, led to another, led to porn, led to IR porn. I never really asked her what she liked, I just gracefully put on some IR porn with girls unmistakenly and obviously orgasming. I think a female performer would have a difficult time faking a squirting scene. The actress in the video was convulsing while her eyes rolled into the back of her head, while squirting. My gf really really enjoyed what she saw. Her pussy got so wet from watching the large bbc impaling white pussy on the tv. I used her bbc-dildo on her pussy while licking her clitoris, while she watched the porn. She came several times with the oral/dildo/IR/role-playing combination. After removing the dildo from her pussy, I performed oral on her telling her that pussy tastes so wet and sweet after she fucks bbc!! She went through the roof. She asked to continue our play in the bedroom where we used a larger bbc dildo. I continued to stuff her pussy with the larger dildo while performing oral telling her how gorgeous she looks cumming from a bbc. She then asked me to fuck her pussy. I playfully told her that that I was reclaiming her. She perked up asking what that was. I told her it was part of being a hotwife. I briefly mentioned the dynamics of a stag/vixen relationship. I slyly dropped a hint that she should look into a hotwife forum/blog to further her understanding of being a hotwife. She really liked the idea of having more sex, while still continuing to love and have sex with me. We passionately fucked. She came, I came, we all came. She said she can’t wait to watch porn and have sex again. She also talked about next time when we’re sex, incorporating a blindfold into the mix for herself.Great! I know it usually works on my wife when I'm wanting to do something that normally she'd object. If I were you I'd go ahead, next time, and get her to tell you her hottest sexual fantasies ... this opens opens it up for you to tell her what your hottest fantasy is. Maybe you'll get really lucky and she'll admit to 'exactly what you want' ... and you're on your way then.
This is actually science ... when someone loses one of their senses, the others pick up the slack and become a lot stronger. Lots of info on the internet and books on this. Vision is particularly sensitive to this, so her mind and other senses, tastes, hearing, touch ect all become more sensitive. Just imagine if you took away both her hearing & vision and 'touch' became her primary sense ... wow! It works!
UPDATE!!
) She asked what it means to be verified. I told her about getting her picture taken in which she would be announcing that she would be available for hotwifing
I put my hand over her pubic mound and felt extreme wetness. 
I whispered into her ear that her pussy was wet. I hugged and kissed her passionately and thanked her for getting turned on. Thanks again MacNFries, not sure what I would without your advice. Just so we're clear on the definitions ... male spouse=cuckold female spouse=hotwife her chosen male=bull
UPDATE:
Interestingly I had considered backing off completely from everything and see what she “bites” at. Waiting for her to “come around “ for her suggestions to see which direction she wants to take. I will say she did show true disappointment when I told her that Exxxotica Erotica-Chicago date was moved from June to April. Lol!!!
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