I would avoid friends, its too risky if you want to keep it a secret. I started seeing a guy in early Summer who I am still seeing now. I met him in a pub while out with friends. I only found out during conversation with a couple of weeks later he is a friend of a friend of my hubby. Luckily he doesnt want people to know either as he is involved with someone. However i constantly have the thought that he may have one ******* too many, or may get in an argument and blurt something out or split with his girlfriend etc. not a pleasant thought! So I suggest finding a secret guy and having fun! X