I'll answer this one, if you don't mind, even if I'm a girl outside of the male-female sitch the question seems to assume...
My answer, by the way, was
Through an acquaintance - but that happened by circumstance after I'd been trying to hook up through websites like this!
My situation always seems pretty odd to me, like nobody would understand or get it...and prolly not in my everyday world, but when I read accounts here from people in swinger scenes and who go to resorts I guess it doesn't sound so strange or improbable....
Anyway, about three years ago now I got to know this girl through some wild friends...and since I was single at the time, she became something of a FWB. Eventually it turned out that this guy she was really trying to hang on to, wanted to watch us together...guys of course get off totally on the idea of two girls!!!...and not wanting to risk my booty calls, plus being an exhibitionist anway, I agreed...just on the condition he only watched
Around that time, not being totally satisfied with our occasional hookups, I had gotten a hankering to try out BBC, and had started hanging out here. I was looking to join a couple or find another girl to go down on a BBC date with me, because I was afraid of trying to hook up solo with guys online, it seemed risky without another girl to have my back. And I also asked my FWB, who wasn't into it. But then I think her guy friend heard about it, and it got back to me that he wanted to see that...well, just me, because she still wasn't going to do it...and he knew a real BBC Bull from a swingers' scene.
I wasn't going to say no to that! Especially being the exhibitionist
So I had my first BBC Bull that way...turned out to be a very nice guy, experienced, and really hung...8" real or about 10" by the way they seem to measure around here... I loved it, it was the amazing sensation of being taken and filled that I was craving...and the beautiful sight of my pale white skin up against and penetrated by black flesh, that I'd experienced briefly once with a black BF who was not a BBC.... After the second or third "date" to put on a show in a motel room, the Bull and I decided to make our own little DTF arrangement. Things with the girl started to peter off as I got my own steady GF and finally moved in with her...though that has always been an open relationship.... That girl...now, really, my girl...was not into the BBC thing at first, but finally got curious to join me and try it out, and my Bull came up with a BBC friend of his who was not quite as intimidatingly big, who turned out to be perfect for the GF, not that we didn't take turns or try the occasional two-on-one.... So basically we've had this DTF BBC double date sitch, with the occasional addition of another Bull or girl, and lately my very studiously busy GF only coming about half the time and letting me pick up another wingwoman....
More of the detail of how this all evolved, is my Newbie thread, where posts over the years track things from the time before I had even been blacked.... There have been more twists in the sitch, and my relationship, of late, as my GF heads for graduation and things seem destined for a change, but I've written about that a bit elsewhere and will have to try to lay it all out better in some new posts to my Intro thread when I have time...
Lanie
p.s. I have ultimately ended up getting to know a couple of Bulls through here well enough, and getting real with them on the phone and on Facebook, that I would trust them to meet them if I hadn't lucked into the sitch I did, or if we were in the same city....