How did you control the anxiety of meeting your first bull to let things continue?
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From my perspective, find the correct Bull.
I’ve been in the lifestyle for a little over a decade and the biggest thing I’ve noticed is that I always set the tone. It’s up to me to make her confortable and ensure we all communicate clearly beforehand.
Everything else should flow naturally from there.
I’ve been in the lifestyle for a little over a decade and the biggest thing I’ve noticed is that I always set the tone. It’s up to me to make her confortable and ensure we all communicate clearly beforehand.
Everything else should flow naturally from there.
We met at a Starbucks and had coffee and then went back to our place and had a good time 
pantyboy33
Couple
For me it’s was wearing women’s underwear. They act like mental handcuffs. “The guy knows my panty wearing secret, so you’d better let him fuck your wife.” It’s worked well.
Us too. A couple drinks
A good alcohol buzz for my first time. It was a spit roast with hubby. Since then I’ve been a lot less anxious each time.
For me, we had a few drinks; it relaxed me and got me going.
We have 3 probable paths because even after many years of playing, meeting someone new always comes w anxiety for her.
1. We are already at a sex club w no expectations, but she’s getting more and more in the mood. If the right fella comes along, isn’t too pushy, then she claims her prize for the night.
2. I bypass the anxiety and set up a blind date play date. We’ve talked about, shared some pics, and I’ve chatted w the guy and then we just show up to play. That takes some front end work to confirm he is legit and won’t flake.
3. Most often, a first, quick, no play meet to see if there is some attraction and chemistry. Next date is usually someplace where things can be more flirty like pool, dance club, …. Anywhere that helps transition the encounter from interview to teasing.
A few drinks always help, but only a couple that take the edge off and relax her inhibitions. Never so much she can’t make a fully consensual decision to play.
1. We are already at a sex club w no expectations, but she’s getting more and more in the mood. If the right fella comes along, isn’t too pushy, then she claims her prize for the night.
2. I bypass the anxiety and set up a blind date play date. We’ve talked about, shared some pics, and I’ve chatted w the guy and then we just show up to play. That takes some front end work to confirm he is legit and won’t flake.
3. Most often, a first, quick, no play meet to see if there is some attraction and chemistry. Next date is usually someplace where things can be more flirty like pool, dance club, …. Anywhere that helps transition the encounter from interview to teasing.
A few drinks always help, but only a couple that take the edge off and relax her inhibitions. Never so much she can’t make a fully consensual decision to play.
I'd say the best advice would be take things slowly and lots of communication and hold nothing back that comes to your mind. You don't want to find yourself down the road and thinking "I wish I had said that when I could have."
Looking for a cougar
Smoke some joint and the legs will open up like a flower
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