I didn't mean it in a stereotypical way, I was just speaking regarding my observation of this site and many others and noticed that so many ladies and couples into different lifestyles live a lot farther than the region i'm in.There really is no way of knowing, unless we're talking stereotypes. Just take cps' pictures as an example- if you saw her in a supermarket or coffee shop, unless she's wearing a sign, you wouldn't know, and that's the way most women play it.