I see a lot of these posts around.
I think you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it *******. Some others here have answered saying they can offer you their tricks. Take them up on it! Hear what they have to tell you. But remember that your game is always your game, and nobody else's. I think i have a knack of picking up on restless, open, expressive women and just subtly letting them know all things are permissible and possible with me!
I met a chick in a bar on Monday evening. She was tall and Goth, and covered in tattoos. One of the tattoos (just ONE I might add - one of many), was the famous Ace of Spades. At this point I could have got over-excited and pushed her into a zone of discomfort with a stranger, but instead I just talked to her about her tats - including the one just mentioned. She is a traveling girl who has South America and Africa on her "to do" list. I don't see her as black exclusive, but more the "wants to get fucked on 7 continents" kind of girl. I am meeting her tomorrow where we shall probe a little deeper!
I guess what I am saying is try to work with what you have. Listen to what your girl wants. Be open, because she may have exciting fetishes in different areas - so go with them.