Hoping to get wife into it...

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by Opasan1, Jun 30, 2014.

  1. Opasan1

    Opasan1 Member

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    I am sure there are many like me on here that are anywhere from just starting to share with their wife this fantasy of being with another guy or are very close to getting her to go through with it. Personally I am past the initial stage and am slowly working on making it happen. Just last night I introduced a blindfold into our night of fun and then while we were getting into it I produced a black 10" dildo without her knowing. She knew it wasn't me that was inside her but I told her it to worry she would find out soon enough. So as I was working the dildo I moved along side her as best as I could so she could stroke my cock while taking the other to simulate more than one person. When I knew she was close to cumming I lifted her blindfold over her eyes and told her to look at what was getting her off and as soon as she saw what I had and was doing she lost it!

    It was after that then I entered her and released myself along with making her cum again while I made some small talk about how she enjoyed the black dildo.

    I feel like we are making steady progress in the right direction towards the ultimate goal of the real thing! I would like to hear from others on here and see what their situation is currently and how close they are to making it happen. For some of you it may just be a fantasy or maybe your worried how your wife may react if you bring this up to her. Either way let me know and let's make this a helpful thread for us all!

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  2. Opasan1

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    image.jpg Very horny today decided to try my wife's panties. What a tight fit!
     
  3. MacNfries

    MacNfries Well-Known Member Sweet & Cordial Gold Member

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    Opasan, there are a lot of variables associated with the likelihood that married woman will fulfill a husband's fantasy of having sex with other men. And, although the interest/curiosity of blackOnwhite is growing, it still represents a smaller majority of the married population than you might realize. The primary problem, as I see, with getting a white wife to have sex with a black men, in general, is the wife's upbringing, and her husband's patience/approach in getting her to try it. Plus, women tend to put a stronger value on the marriage commitment than men, and look for more than just sex when it comes to intimacy with other men. If your wife was raised in a family with a strong emphasis on moral structure, or is more introverted when it comes to people, you may never succeed. A good starting point, in getting a wife to try "anything" outside the normalcy of monogamous sex, is to know what her own sexual fantasies are. Those are the ones that she thinks of when she masturbates or rubs herself off. Some women won't even admit they masturbate. And, it may be difficult to get her to reveal those particular ones; one might be surprised at the bizarreness of one's deepest sexual fantasies. At any rate, its always good to know what she likes and what she doesn't like. That dildo you mentioned, for example, her interest in that could just as well be regarding its size, not its color. So, anything you can do to get her to leave her "comfort zone" and try new stuff is usually a step in the right direction; just don't be too disappointed if her sexual fantasies are totally different from yours, as that's why they're often just fantasies. Once those deep fantasies are revealed, however, the chances of fulfilling them dramatically increase.

    By the way, my wife and I have a fairly good history of "swinging" with 3-somes and couples, but we haven't crossed the color barrier as of yet. That's my goal, and I know she doesn't have a racial barrier, but with 2 teens in our house right now, it may be a little while longer.
    pic_twocentsWorth2.jpg Mac
     
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  4. Opasan1

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    Thanks Mac! I really appreciate yor advise and wisdom on the subject. As much as I would want this to happen yesterday I do realize that it is something that will take time. Whether or not she will ultimately go for it remains to be seen, but for now it still leaves me with an end goal of trying to reach.

    Thx
     
  5. hungteacher

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    @opasan thanks for posting. I have worked with many couples at your stage in the fantasy and I have to say you have a very healthy outlook. Some men just cant seem to contain themselves and they take it too far and freak their wife out and she backs off entirely. And what was a possibility now becomes a no-go, or back to square one.

    remember, your wife loves sex, she will love a big cock....you just have to make her feel comfortable enough with the idea that you will still love her if she fucks someone else. for most women that is the obstacle to overcome - trust me, its not about another cock. its your ego she is worried about.
     
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  6. Hedonist Ninja

    Hedonist Ninja Well-Known Member Real Person

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    WHAT THE HELL?! Just an observation... Best to not send mixed signal when you state "I want some other man to get into my wife's panties" and then you show a pic where you are in those panties!

    My lord...

    Good luck getting your needs met. Whatever those are...
     
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  7. allfor my wife

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    Using the toy don't mean anything . Woman can tolerate to one point . But where coming for real thing it's completely deferent story . But good luck to you , every woman it's different
     
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  8. Opasan1

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    I was really hoping that I would get more advise and personal experience from others on here. What got you guys to this point? What did you say or do to get your wife to come around to your idea of fucking others.
     
  9. Drillher4me

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    What you're going to need is plenty of:
    1. Time
    2. Patience, &
    3. Friendly Persuasion

    Unless your GF/Wife is already acceptable to the idea of having sex with others you better be prepared for the long haul. No matter how persuasive you may think you are, the variables are as numerous as there are women. In fact you may never be persuasive enough to ever accomplish your goal. In that case I can only suggest you enjoy your trips to Fantasyland, with or without your "others" participation.

    It takes three (3) elements to come together all at once to culminate in a successful conclusion, and they are:
    1. Being in the right place
    2. At the right time
    3. With the right guy

    Without any of these elements, it is my belief, based on our experience at least, there ain't anything going to happen. The road to the desired destination is most probably going to be very long, over seven (7) years in our case. The final destination will probably be bought about by unforeseen circumstances coming together at the same time, again, as was our experience. Additionally, you'll probably be surprised by the fact that the guy getting to fulfill your fantasy, and your wife's pussy, will probably be someone you least expect, or perhaps, could have had even thought of. In our case it was an old university friend and roommate of mine whom I hadn't even thought of since losing contact with him shortly after graduation. He took a position with a company in Germany, I stayed here, consequently losing contact was to be expected. The fact that he was black was a bonus! The fact that he was extremely well endowed was a triple delight, especially for my wife!

    If you're under any illusion that things can happen quickly, under normal circumstance anyway, go enjoy your fantasy! If you're under the illusion that every black guy you see is so well endowed that he'll put the average white guy to shame, as often referenced on sites such as this, "forget it"! They're "NOT"! That's pure myth! I'll concede, according to most studies, on average, they have a small advantage. I don't know if my comments encourage or discourage you, but they are the facts as I see them anyway.

    I probably should offer the following comments for you however. Here's the road my wife travelled in my fantasy before that fantasy become a reality!

    About a year or so after we were married, during some pillow talk, I suggested that my favourite sexual fantasy would be to see her get laid by some very well endowed black guy! I was almost thrown out of bed and accused of being some sort of sexual pervert. I never bought it up again for several months and when we were down south on vacation. We had been sipping wine all evening and Pam was exceptionally horny! In fantasy, she joined in and enjoyed the ride! After that it became almost a routine whenever we made out! As they say, the rest is history and you can read all about on this site! Would I recommend to anyone that they have their wife follow our footsteps, "NEVER!" But if you're so inclined, good luck!
     
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  10. Opasan1

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    Drillher4me... Thank you for sharing your experience and for your ideas and suggestions. I already know that this will take some time and patience on my part and I am really commited in taking as long as my wife needs. As much as I would like for this to happen tomorrow I know better and am not going to constantly keep pushing the idea which would turn her off to the whole thing from the get go. I am happy that ur wife went straight to fooling around with a black man and maybe my wife will as well. I am also good with starting out with other white guys as well so she can get comfortable with the whole idea of getting shared then I will bring up a black cock to her and start leading her in that direction.

    Thanks again and look forward to hearing from others as well!
     
  11. dunacouple

    dunacouple Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    I don't think you appreciate the nature of female thought. Letting her fuck some white guys first so you can get her blacked is not the way to go. At all. Unless you are not specifically after the interracial aspect that is.

    If you want to get your wife to fulfill your fantasies, you'll have to be able to convey your feelings in a way that relates to any eventual real life encounters. You don't have to spill your beans immediately all at once. But manipulating your wife by starting out with vanilla might turn out counter productive.

    First of all how will you explain to your wife that eventually you want her to be blacked. Women have a good sense when they have been duped in to something. Believe me, your reptile brain(the part that shuts other parts down because: HORNY) will give her all the signs she needs. Never manipulate things that don't need manipulation. Why would it be less of a problem to fuck a white guy? In the end it's about fucking another man, unless she is racist or was raised racist etc.

    Secondly; I know I would not get turned on by another white guy in our bedroom. Even if you are, your fantasy is something different, how big are the chances things turn out sour? A lot bigger then when you actually both fulfil a shared fantasy.

    The shared part here is important. Because for a guy wearing panties you sure are dominant ;)
    What I mean by this is that many wannabe cucks are forgetting what they are asking of their wives. They are asking her to fulfl their fantasy. While society told her that is a bad thing to do. Only bad women do that type of thing. Now you are asking her to do it because it turns you on.

    Make sure you invest time in sharing your kink. Latch on to shared turn ons. Build on that. Don't go manipulating your wife in to fucking a black guy. You can steer, you can tell white lies. But you don't want to build something this big and potentially threatening on false pretences.

    I can tell you in short how it went with my wife. As far as we got until now anyway. I think we started watching interracial porn maybe 8 years ago. I got turned on by BBC porn because my gf used to date black men mostly. We used to party a lot but also were madly in love and started to loose interrest in the meat market AKA as night club. I got unconsciously turned on when we would be in a club and a buff black guy would ask her if she wanted to go back to a hotel again. After watching amateur porn with her that involved hotwives and bbc, we slowly but surely began to talk about it. years passed. a online profile, encountering too many fakes etc. Lots of doubts on both sides.

    After we became parents we started talking about keeping sex interesting. My wife likes being submissive and we wanted to explore that. We would still watch IR porn a couple of times a year. but things were slow after our first kid. Now like earlier mentioned by another commenter, something out of the blue hapened, a random facebook user tried to ad her. It was a black guy. he liked some interracial group. We started talking again during sex and we ended up combining both of our kinks and made it in to one extremely potent and hot mix.

    I give her tasks, connect her with potential black masters and make sure she does what they ask her to do. She makes pictures at work of her pussy for a black guy because she is his queen of spades and loves to serve him. She get's extremely horny and we have sex daily now.
    The black master she has the most fun with is now out of EU, we still have yet to find a good match. But she is now more ready then I am!