help us advice us to find our way please...

[jim&natalie]

we are jim and natalie 27 and 25 years old

i dont know wtf is going on with us.... but me and my fiancee when we are horny and turned on we really like fantasising about bbc or gangbang or many things when we both finish the sex then we both dont like this idea we dont want to share.. espesially natalie doesnt want to go with other man... only when we are making sex we want to do everything... how is this feeling called??

for me i always want to go with many girls i would really love to go with black girl/s and i would also like to see my fiancee with bbc...

 

[DEV]

Try to break the ice by visiting a swingers' club in Athens first.
Get yourselves more used to the idea of sharing, maybe try some soft touching and kissing and dancing with other people there.
Another thing that can get you closer to fulfilling your fantasy is some realistic toy.
Good luck guys

 

[darkshadow]

we are jim and natalie 27 and 25 years old

i dont know wtf is going on with us.... but me and my fiancee when we are horny and turned on we really like fantasising about bbc or gangbang or many things when we both finish the sex then we both dont like this idea we dont want to share.. espesially natalie doesnt want to go with other man... only when we are making sex we want to do everything... how is this feeling called??

for me i always want to go with many girls i would really love to go with black girl/s and i would also like to see my fiancee with bbc...

That is call AGE , adventure , trying to try new things is normal ,try to realized all your fantasies , because in the reality they will never go even the one the scare you in some point of view we are in this world TO LEARN and after move to the next level .

 

[Nymedic81]

A lot of people experience this and you guys should take it slow! It's a strange way where people get super horny and during those moments you and your gf feel the urge to amplify the kinkiness which increases you guys horiness and it sounds like it results in great sex between the two of you which is great! But now you are coming off your sex high! When you and your gf's sex high is over your logical thinking comes back and the things you both found hot and exciting no longer does! It's a brain chemical imbalance with the sexual high at the time of excitement then coming back to normal or hitting a low because of what you guys are feeling.

Do you guys bring up these fantasies when you guys aren't horny or post sex?

I would say to chill on the fantasies for a little bit and see what happens to you guys sex life! Or just roleolay and keep it a fantasy! A lot of people can't handle the real life experience of sharing or being shared! If something changes and you guys still both want to persue it then like Dev said take it slow by adding black dildos and joining a swingers site or club!

Good luck, be safe and have fun!

 

[Carter8701]

we are jim and natalie 27 and 25 years old

i dont know wtf is going on with us.... but me and my fiancee when we are horny and turned on we really like fantasising about bbc or gangbang or many things when we both finish the sex then we both dont like this idea we dont want to share.. espesially natalie doesnt want to go with other man... only when we are making sex we want to do everything... how is this feeling called??

for me i always want to go with many girls i would really love to go with black girl/s and i would also like to see my fiancee with bbc...

I think you and your fiancee are ashamed or afraid of your desires and fantasies. Maybe because of your educations, traditional point of view or the love (or jealousy) you and her share. You should go on to talk about it and confront your mutual fears and fantasies. Then if you are both comfortable with that you should establish rules.
I'm not sure if going to a swing club for a start is a good idea as I have once been in a swingers club in Paris and I surprisingly didn't find that hot and that interesting at all. Most people were too old, unattractive or out of shape/ overweight and very few women were my type..... And I wasn't comfortable with looking at their bodies fucking and doing things. Some stuffs were even awkward.. And I wasn't at my ease either with all those naked people around me, staring at me etc... LOL.
That's what I try to say is that confronting your fantasies against reality in that kind of environment could be shockingly disappointing sometimes.
So my advice is like DEV said, break the ice BUT take it slowly and take your time to get what you really want.

 

[MagicMikeATX]

we are jim and natalie 27 and 25 years old

i dont know wtf is going on with us.... but me and my fiancee when we are horny and turned on we really like fantasising about bbc or gangbang or many things when we both finish the sex then we both dont like this idea we dont want to share.. espesially natalie doesnt want to go with other man... only when we are making sex we want to do everything... how is this feeling called??

for me i always want to go with many girls i would really love to go with black girl/s and i would also like to see my fiancee with bbc...

What you two are experiencing is perfectly normal. Fantasizing about sex with others in the middle of sex with each other is hot.
It doesn't mean you two NEED to have sex with other people, especially if it makes her feel uncomfortable.

Talk about it openly and see what She wants.

 

[jim&natalie]

What you two are experiencing is perfectly normal. Fantasizing about sex with others in the middle of sex with each other is hot.
It doesn't mean you two NEED to have sex with other people, especially if it makes her feel uncomfortable.

Talk about it openly and see what She wants.

she says that its fun and likes it a lot as an idea but she loves me 2 much to share me that is her opinion..

 

[jim&natalie]

anyway thanks a lot to everyone for your replys.. i will try the slow slow thing and see where it goes first with some toys

the truth is that i have said the idea to go to a swinger club in athens and she didnt have problem she like the idea to go there and we both see how we will feel. the problem is that athens is 800 kms far from us.. and we rarely go there around 2-3 times per year..

 

[DEV]

The would be perfect for you! Some toys-time, see how your fantasy grows and how you both react to it and then a trip to Athens to have some smooth transition from fantasy to reality.

Don't put pressure on yourselves guys. Stay calm and enjoy TOGETHER this ''trip''.

Φιλιά!

 

[Marc williams]

To the hubby. She doesn't want to share you, but if I was you, I would share her and she just might come around eventually and share you! Even if she doesn't ever want to share you, it would still be amazing watching her take a BBC! Real life is much better than fantasy! I shared my ex wife with bbc and she loved It! We divorced for other reasons, but our sex life was off the charts!

 

[Torpedo]

Inviting an additional person or persons to your bed complicates your sex life exponentially. I would recommend defining your sexuality with each other before making things more complicated by adding people to it. When you both are comfortable with who you each are and your relationship together then add to it if that is what you both want.

 

[Marc williams]

I have the same problem. My girl is open to her being shared, but fears that will open the door to me being with another woman! I have told her not to worry about that, but insecurity sets in! Ugh
A swing club us pretty potent, might be a little over the top but you would know if it was,,, seeing you know your wife better than anyone else. I wish you luck

 

[maccachew]

I have the same problem. My girl is open to her being shared, but fears that will open the door to me being with another woman! I have told her not to worry about that, but insecurity sets in! Ugh
A swing club us pretty potent, might be a little over the top but you would know if it was,,, seeing you know your wife better than anyone else. I wish you luck

Then tell her that you will stay monogamous to her but rhat can fuck BBCs

 

[housewifenheat]

Others here have said it and it is worth saying again. Take it slow. Take your time. Talk to each other when there is no sexual tension. Bring it up at breakfast or some time during the day when you two are not wanting to jump each other. It is important to communicate and talk your fantasies through when you aren't in the midst of passion.

Introducing toys and even watching porn will help to lead to sharing. But again, take your time.... Going to a club is a good way, it lets you see what is out there. But clubs aren't for everyone. Talking through the fantasy though is the first and most important step.

 

[jim&natalie]

Others here have said it and it is worth saying again. Take it slow. Take your time. Talk to each other when there is no sexual tension. Bring it up at breakfast or some time during the day when you two are not wanting to jump each other. It is important to communicate and talk your fantasies through when you aren't in the midst of passion.

Introducing toys and even watching porn will help to lead to sharing. But again, take your time.... Going to a club is a good way, it lets you see what is out there. But clubs aren't for everyone. Talking through the fantasy though is the first and most important step.

well in times like breakfast or evening coffee while we are not turned on we dont have much interest about sharing at least for her.. she for sure doesnt want to have other man... well ofc i am start trying slowly slowly about sharing

 

[Torpedo]

I have the same problem. My girl is open to her being shared, but fears that will open the door to me being with another woman! I have told her not to worry about that, but insecurity sets in! Ugh
A swing club us pretty potent, might be a little over the top but you would know if it was,,, seeing you know your wife better than anyone else. I wish you luck

Insecurity and it's close friend jealousy are good reasons not to invite other people into your sex lifeEither is a recipe for disaster

 

[Marc williams]

Just take it slow like others have said.
I've thrown little jokes when we weren't in the heat of passion and she giggles, so in two years I have made progress!

 

[Blkdreams88]

My wife and I are the same way and we've yet to bring a real BBC to bed with us. It's okay though. Roleplay with realistic toys and dirty talk makes it so hot and in turn pleasurable for us both. You'll find your way.