Help me understand “Cuckolding“.

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A man whose spouse or romantic partner is unfaithful.
tr.v. cuck·old·ed, cuck·old·ing, cuck·olds
To make a cuckold of.
[Middle English cokewald, from Anglo-Norman *cucuald, from cucu, the cuckoo, from Vulgar Latin *cuccūlus, from Latin cucūlus.]
Word History: The allusion to the cuckoo on which the word cuckold is based may not be appreciated by those unfamiliar with the nesting habits of certain varieties of this bird. The female of some cuckoos lays its eggs in the nests of other birds, leaving them to be cared for by the resident nesters. This parasitic tendency has given the female bird a figurative reputation for unfaithfulness as well. Hence in Old French we find the word cucuault, composed of cocu, "cuckoo, cuckold," and the pejorative suffix -ald, used to designate a husband whose wife has wandered afield like the female cuckoo. An earlier assumed form of the Old French word was borrowed into Middle English by way of Anglo-Norman. Middle English cokewold, the ancestor of Modern English cuckold, is first recorded in a work written around 1250.
American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fifth Edition. Copyright © 2016 by Houghton Mifflin Harcourt Publishing Company. Published by Houghton Mifflin Harcourt Publishing Company. All rights reserved.
cuckold
(ˈkʌkəld)
n
a man whose spouse has committed adultery, often regarded as an object of scorn
vb
(tr) to make a cuckold of
[C13 cukeweld, from Old French cucuault, from cucu cuckoo; perhaps an allusion to the parasitic cuckoos that lay their eggs in the nests of other birds]
ˈcuckoldry n
Collins English Dictionary – Complete and Unabridged, 12th Edition 2014 © HarperCollins Publishers 1991, 1994, 1998, 2000, 2003, 2006, 2007, 2009, 2011, 2014
cuck•old
(ˈkʌk əld)

n.
1. the husband of an unfaithful wife.
v.t.
2. to make a cuckold of (a husband).

[1200–50; Middle English cukeweld, later cok(k)ewold, cukwold < Anglo-French *cucuald]

This should clear it all up.
 
I’m a bull but I understand it. You first need to understand that there are many reasons why a cuck would want to be a cuck.

1) the Voyeur
Men watch a large amount of porn and truth is if any guy sees two people fucking they’ll want to watch. Cucks take it further in that they want to see the woman who they desire the most, in this case their wife, being fucked by the porn star like bull who is quintessentially everything he is not. It turns him on to see basically live porn.

2) the power play
We see this a lot with some women and have accepted it, the whole desire to be dominated but there are some men who enjoy feeling subordinate and not just to women. Case in point you are a wealthy business leader and you are accustomed to barking orders but sometimes in other realms, you enjoy the desire to be told what to do because it is taboo to your normal state. Now not saying that’s the case for all men but some cucks will tell you that they are always in control so they like when another man takes control of their wife.

3) Vicarious
Sexuality is complex and we need to be honest with that fact. I admire people with extremely open relationships. Some cucks love their wives unconditionally but also love masculinity and yielding to it in others. A big muscular big dicked black man is subjectively the most masculine of men and some cucks what to get close to it so he and his wife might get a bull so that the husband can live out his fantasy vicariously through his wife.

4) Can’t keep up
Some man just can’t keep up with their wives sexual appetite and for them having another man perform the physical part is a welcomed solution to that problem.

Now these answers are not the reason for every cuck but I think it covers a lot of causes.
Great answer, I may add a couple more:

-the hub loves seeing wife in high pleasure, less so for his pleasure sake (like in the viewing live porn) and moreso about seeing her in extraordinary pleasure. Love taken to a new level, if you will.

-power play but in the opposite direction - wife enjoys being dominated by husband and made to do really slutty things. Husband gets off on being in control of the scene to some extent (obviously with bulls constraints and expectations well understood).

We have played with almost all of these and enjoy many aspects, but one thing is for sure - it's all about the pleasure and fun three (or more!) People can have together for us!!
 
Yes there are so many different motivations but most people think it’s simple weakness. And it’s not true bulls tap into the couples fantasy
Its so not about just the physicality. It's faaar more about the mindfuck aspects that make it the hottest. So many black men (not bulls) don't get this. You're spot on here, sir! ;)
 
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@JaninaQuiel89: Hey. It is interesting that your posting says, you want to understand something, but the only answer you have "liked" (so far) is the only answer that doesnt even try to explain anything, because it is quite obvious the poster doesnt have a clue or understanding of the subject either...
So heres my question: Do you really want to understand "cuckolding", or do you seek affirmation for not understanding it? [USER=170829]@Astro109[/USER]: There are many presumptions in your posting that dont hold true in every case. One is that a husband must feel humiliated from the fact that his wife has "sexual relations" with other people. This is not necessarily true.

For instance, there are many couples who have been swingers for a long period of time prior to "cuckolding". They have been living out their sexual freedom together as a couple on some occasions, adding some extra spice to their otherwise "conventional" sex lives. They are used to the partners having sex outside the marriage already and know from experience that another dick in their life doesnt threaten their marriage - a relationship that can typically be characterized as "loving", "caring" and "trustful and trustworthy".

Most "cuckolds" are proud and self-confident men who know of their high value and importance for their partner which is why they dont experience fear of being rejected or abandoned by their wife at such a high level like others would. Your statement "If you have a shred of dignity and self-respect you would not stand this, [I](...)[/I]" doesnt make sense, because it is lack of dignity and self-respect that makes men want to "possess" their women and box them in.

Think of a man who is jealous of and/or feels humiliated by even a rubber dick - his wifes favorite toy. And men who are that insecure do exist. ImO thats laughable!
Right on...it's an incredibly self confident man that can say "my wife is going to be fucked silly by another man but definitely come home to me and remain my wife"

We have been married over 20 years and have had all forms of alternate sexual relationships relating to her fucking other men...and I've fucked other women - both with open and aware understanding. We do it because we love seeing the other in pleasure. Not because we are unsatisfied with our partner.
 
I come from a six year relationship with an African man, so I do not quite understand "cuckolding". Of course I know why we white girls have a weakness for black men. But still I do not understand much at cuckolding. couples, do you explain that to me?
Try this. Next time a nice looking white guy tries to hit on you. Tell him you are black only with your B/F. Watch his eyes and face closely. That jealousy/dismay/humiliation you will probably see, is what a cuckold deeply desires, no, needs.
 
I’m a bull but I understand it. You first need to understand that there are many reasons why a cuck would want to be a cuck.

1) the Voyeur
Men watch a large amount of porn and truth is if any guy sees two people fucking they’ll want to watch. Cucks take it further in that they want to see the woman who they desire the most, in this case their wife, being fucked by the porn star like bull who is quintessentially everything he is not. It turns him on to see basically live porn.

2) the power play
We see this a lot with some women and have accepted it, the whole desire to be dominated but there are some men who enjoy feeling subordinate and not just to women. Case in point you are a wealthy business leader and you are accustomed to barking orders but sometimes in other realms, you enjoy the desire to be told what to do because it is taboo to your normal state. Now not saying that’s the case for all men but some cucks will tell you that they are always in control so they like when another man takes control of their wife.

3) Vicarious
Sexuality is complex and we need to be honest with that fact. I admire people with extremely open relationships. Some cucks love their wives unconditionally but also love masculinity and yielding to it in others. A big muscular big dicked black man is subjectively the most masculine of men and some cucks what to get close to it so he and his wife might get a bull so that the husband can live out his fantasy vicariously through his wife.

4) Can’t keep up
Some man just can’t keep up with their wives sexual appetite and for them having another man perform the physical part is a welcomed solution to that problem.

Now these answers are not the reason for every cuck but I think it covers a lot of causes.
very well put
 
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