Help me understand “Cuckolding“.

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I’m a bull but I understand it. You first need to understand that there are many reasons why a cuck would want to be a cuck.

1) the Voyeur
Men watch a large amount of porn and truth is if any guy sees two people fucking they’ll want to watch. Cucks take it further in that they want to see the woman who they desire the most, in this case their wife, being fucked by the porn star like bull who is quintessentially everything he is not. It turns him on to see basically live porn.

2) the power play
We see this a lot with some women and have accepted it, the whole desire to be dominated but there are some men who enjoy feeling subordinate and not just to women. Case in point you are a wealthy business leader and you are accustomed to barking orders but sometimes in other realms, you enjoy the desire to be told what to do because it is taboo to your normal state. Now not saying that’s the case for all men but some cucks will tell you that they are always in control so they like when another man takes control of their wife.

3) Vicarious
Sexuality is complex and we need to be honest with that fact. I admire people with extremely open relationships. Some cucks love their wives unconditionally but also love masculinity and yielding to it in others. A big muscular big dicked black man is subjectively the most masculine of men and some cucks what to get close to it so he and his wife might get a bull so that the husband can live out his fantasy vicariously through his wife.

4) Can’t keep up
Some man just can’t keep up with their wives sexual appetite and for them having another man perform the physical part is a welcomed solution to that problem.

Now these answers are not the reason for every cuck but I think it covers a lot of causes.
 
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SirBAO said:
I’m a bull but I understand it. You first need to understand that there are many reasons why a cuck would want to be a cuck.

1) the Voyeur
Men watch a large amount of porn and truth is if any guy sees two people fucking they’ll want to watch. Cucks take it further in that they want to see the woman who they desire the most, in this case their wife, being fucked by the porn star like bull who is quintessentially everything he is not. It turns him on to see basically live porn.

2) the power play
We see this a lot with some women and have accepted it, the whole desire to be dominated but there are some men who enjoy feeling subordinate and not just to women. Case in point you are a wealthy business leader and you are accustomed to barking orders but sometimes in other realms, you enjoy the desire to be told what to do because it is taboo to your normal state. Now not saying that’s the case for all men but some cucks will tell you that they are always in control so they like when another man takes control of their wife.

3) Vicarious
Sexuality is complex and we need to be honest with that fact. I admire people with extremely open relationships. Some cucks love their wives unconditionally but also love masculinity and yielding to it in others. A big muscular big dicked black man is subjectively the most masculine of men and some cucks what to get close to it so he and his wife might get a bull so that the husband can live out his fantasy vicariously through his wife.

4) Can’t keep up
Some man just can’t keep up with their wives sexual appetite and for them having another man perform the physical part is a welcomed solution to that problem.

Now these answers are not the reason for every cuck but I think it covers a lot of causes.
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So very true
 
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SirBAO said:
I’m a bull but I understand it. You first need to understand that there are many reasons why a cuck would want to be a cuck.

1) the Voyeur
Men watch a large amount of porn and truth is if any guy sees two people fucking they’ll want to watch. Cucks take it further in that they want to see the woman who they desire the most, in this case their wife, being fucked by the porn star like bull who is quintessentially everything he is not. It turns him on to see basically live porn.

2) the power play
We see this a lot with some women and have accepted it, the whole desire to be dominated but there are some men who enjoy feeling subordinate and not just to women. Case in point you are a wealthy business leader and you are accustomed to barking orders but sometimes in other realms, you enjoy the desire to be told what to do because it is taboo to your normal state. Now not saying that’s the case for all men but some cucks will tell you that they are always in control so they like when another man takes control of their wife.

3) Vicarious
Sexuality is complex and we need to be honest with that fact. I admire people with extremely open relationships. Some cucks love their wives unconditionally but also love masculinity and yielding to it in others. A big muscular big dicked black man is subjectively the most masculine of men and some cucks what to get close to it so he and his wife might get a bull so that the husband can live out his fantasy vicariously through his wife.

4) Can’t keep up
Some man just can’t keep up with their wives sexual appetite and for them having another man perform the physical part is a welcomed solution to that problem.

Now these answers are not the reason for every cuck but I think it covers a lot of causes.
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very thoughtful response. while I may not subscribe to every point you made, everyone has different views and desires, they are all valid and very well described. you're very insightful
 
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alljackdup said:
very thoughtful response. while I may not subscribe to every point you made, everyone has different views and desires, they are all valid and very well described. you're very insightful
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Yes there are so many different motivations but most people think it’s simple weakness. And it’s not true bulls tap into the couples fantasy
 
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SirBAO said:
I’m a bull but I understand it. You first need to understand that there are many reasons why a cuck would want to be a cuck.

1) the Voyeur
Men watch a large amount of porn and truth is if any guy sees two people fucking they’ll want to watch. Cucks take it further in that they want to see the woman who they desire the most, in this case their wife, being fucked by the porn star like bull who is quintessentially everything he is not. It turns him on to see basically live porn.

2) the power play
We see this a lot with some women and have accepted it, the whole desire to be dominated but there are some men who enjoy feeling subordinate and not just to women. Case in point you are a wealthy business leader and you are accustomed to barking orders but sometimes in other realms, you enjoy the desire to be told what to do because it is taboo to your normal state. Now not saying that’s the case for all men but some cucks will tell you that they are always in control so they like when another man takes control of their wife.

3) Vicarious
Sexuality is complex and we need to be honest with that fact. I admire people with extremely open relationships. Some cucks love their wives unconditionally but also love masculinity and yielding to it in others. A big muscular big dicked black man is subjectively the most masculine of men and some cucks what to get close to it so he and his wife might get a bull so that the husband can live out his fantasy vicariously through his wife.

4) Can’t keep up
Some man just can’t keep up with their wives sexual appetite and for them having another man perform the physical part is a welcomed solution to that problem.

Now these answers are not the reason for every cuck but I think it covers a lot of causes.
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you explained this very well
 
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To put it simply, its the most powerful form of mental domination. You can drive my crazy
Some people like phyiscal domination, some like mental domination, some like both or neither
 
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I don't understand it either. Nobody is forsing people to stay married. If you are not happy with your partner simply go your own way. For a man I find it hard to understand to accept your woman be in a relationship with another man and accept the humiliation. If you have a shred of dignity and self-respect you would not stand this, no matter what her reasons might be. End of story. Having that said it's really interesting to see that so many people are into this. Just hard to understand for me but to each their own I guess.
 
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Astro109 said:
I don't understand it either. Nobody is forsing people to stay married. If you are not happy with your partner simply go your own way. For a man I find it hard to understand to accept your woman be in a relationship with another man and accept the humiliation. If you have a shred of dignity and self-respect you would not stand this, no matter what her reasons might be. End of story. Having that said it's really interesting to see that so many people are into this. Just hard to understand for me but to each their own I guess.
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Well, I have been blessed/ cursed with quite a small penis and I think its hard for any man not in that position to understand how it feels. When you are young you find it very hard to find sex, especially with an attractive woman, and these things begin to blueprint who you'll be when you get older. Those formative years of constant rejection, frustration, humiliation begin to create who you later become. You also combine a constant need to masturbate with a lot of those emotions, and bingo, your orgasms are now connected to those emotions and your brain rewires to give you that sugar hit when you are treated like that again like you were when younger.
Over time those orgasms become stronger with those thoughts and they become habitual and highly addictive. Its easy to say, 'I wouldn't put up with it', but trust me, with a small cock, on the sexual ladder you are already on the bottom rung, and if you're single again you won't be on any woman speed dial for sex or a booty call.
So you just accept, if you want a relationship with some amount of sex, you're probably going to have to share your wife with others, otherwise her frustration will in the end will probably mean, she'll leave you anyway.
 
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1.) Its live porn staring the woman you love.
2.) You get to see her having a higher sensation of pleasure from a pov that is completely absorbing. You can see her whole body moving with each thrust, her breasts bouncing, legs locked around him, hands searching his body, and her toes curling as she cums with a look of pure lust on her face.
3.) Its a play on the power dynamic, the man has now submitted and lost all power to the wife/gf and her sexual lover, hes sexually stimulated by them but since he holds no power in the situation he cannot control how far they will go and how much sex they will have.
4.) The relationship can actually be strengthened, if they accept cuckolding then they no longer will have the fear of cheating and will typically trust eachother more, cuckolding can actually benefit a relationship.
5.) The woman should always be satisfied, and unfortunately some guys cant do it, the lack of sexual satisfaction can really hurt or crumble a relationship, and in my opinion she deserves the best and to be happy so if a guy who has a bigger dick or better sexual skills can satisfy her more than i can then thats fine with me.
6.) It really embraces a womans sexuality and can help her be open with her, providing confidence to her.
 
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slinky1 said:
LOL, i've been a cuckold for over 30 years, and i'm still not sure I understand it :) I love it, but understand it? Still trying to figure it out :)[/QUOTE
yes I am cuckold for same period of time I can not define what it is that some cuckolds get from it or why we do it and giving our wives the freedom to fuck who they want
some of my particular turn ons are
helping her dress get ready
taking her and dropping her off
waiting for her outside her when she texts me where to pick her up
waiting outside while she fucks him
listening on an open phone she leaves where I can hear everything
walk of shame in hotel street at home on the drive
******* I could go on for ever but others in same position know what I mean !!!!
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SirBAO said:
I’m a bull but I understand it. You first need to understand that there are many reasons why a cuck would want to be a cuck.

1) the Voyeur
Men watch a large amount of porn and truth is if any guy sees two people fucking they’ll want to watch. Cucks take it further in that they want to see the woman who they desire the most, in this case their wife, being fucked by the porn star like bull who is quintessentially everything he is not. It turns him on to see basically live porn.

2) the power play
We see this a lot with some women and have accepted it, the whole desire to be dominated but there are some men who enjoy feeling subordinate and not just to women. Case in point you are a wealthy business leader and you are accustomed to barking orders but sometimes in other realms, you enjoy the desire to be told what to do because it is taboo to your normal state. Now not saying that’s the case for all men but some cucks will tell you that they are always in control so they like when another man takes control of their wife.

3) Vicarious
Sexuality is complex and we need to be honest with that fact. I admire people with extremely open relationships. Some cucks love their wives unconditionally but also love masculinity and yielding to it in others. A big muscular big dicked black man is subjectively the most masculine of men and some cucks what to get close to it so he and his wife might get a bull so that the husband can live out his fantasy vicariously through his wife.

4) Can’t keep up
Some man just can’t keep up with their wives sexual appetite and for them having another man perform the physical part is a welcomed solution to that problem.

Now these answers are not the reason for every cuck but I think it covers a lot of causes.
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Well said
 
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@JaninaQuiel89: Hey. It is interesting that your posting says, you want to understand something, but the only answer you have "liked" (so far) is the only answer that doesn`t even try to explain anything, because it is quite obvious the poster doesn`t have a clue or understanding of the subject either...
Astro109 said:
I don't understand it either. Nobody is forsing people to stay married. If you are not happy with your partner simply go your own way. For a man I find it hard to understand to accept your woman be in a relationship with another man and accept the humiliation. If you have a shred of dignity and self-respect you would not stand this, no matter what her reasons might be. End of story. Having that said it's really interesting to see that so many people are into this. Just hard to understand for me but to each their own I guess.
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So here`s my question: Do you really want to understand "cuckolding", or do you seek affirmation for not understanding it?

@Astro109: There are many presumptions in your posting that don`t hold true in every case. One is that a husband must feel humiliated from the fact that his wife has "sexual relations" with other people. This is not necessarily true.

For instance, there are many couples who have been swingers for a long period of time prior to "cuckolding". They have been living out their sexual freedom together as a couple on some occasions, adding some extra spice to their otherwise "conventional" sex lives. They are used to the partner`s having sex outside the marriage already and know from experience that another dick in their life doesn`t threaten their marriage - a relationship that can typically be characterized as "loving", "caring" and "trustful and trustworthy".

Most "cuckolds" are proud and self-confident men who know of their high value and importance for their partner which is why they don`t experience fear of being rejected or abandoned by their wife at such a high level like others would. Your statement "If you have a shred of dignity and self-respect you would not stand this, (...)" doesn`t make sense, because it is lack of dignity and self-respect that makes men want to "possess" their women and box them in.

Think of a man who is jealous of and/or feels humiliated by even a rubber dick - his wife`s favorite toy. And men who are that insecure do exist. ImO that`s laughable!
 
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JaninaQuiel89 said:
I come from a six year relationship with an African man, so I do not quite understand "cuckolding". Of course I know why we white girls have a weakness for black men. But still I do not understand much at cuckolding. couples, do you explain that to me?
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I"m not "cuck" in the slightest. Which pretty much makes me in the minority of white guys on here. Their is a category called "stag" guys who are very adequate who like to share their wife. To some other couples, I've actually been the bull... but when it comes to my wife playing, I just can't get over the way the electricity shooting through my body when I see a black cock pumping in and out of her.

A couple of weeks back my wife decided she wanted to pretty much purge this out of our lifestyle. She was 19 when we were married, I was her 1st everything, and 20 years her senior. She came out of her shell and tried a lot of things, all under the protective umbrella of having a stable and protecting husband.

Doing a little blow really made her bounce off the walls for black cock, and she's just cleansing and ridding herself of the things that do not look good when she asks herself what it leads to in 5 years, 10, 15, 20.
 
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