So me and my girlfriend have been fantasising about her being with other men which are more well endowed than me, also depriving me of sex. All this is well and good but as soon as I try to make things real it doesn't happen it's not the fact that she doesn't want to its the fact that she doesn't want a complete stranger but we can't really have it as someone we know we live in a small town and everyone will find out in a matter of time and what if the person we ask says no and tells people, even if we did find someone we both know and they're willing even with the best intentions these sorts of things will always get out and become common knowledge. Any advice from people been in this situation or have any ideas would be a great help thanks.