What if she is raised old fashioned how can I help persuade her?
cuckold69, that is a challenging issue, but those with old fashion values have their own Achilles's heel. I look at my own parents (married over 40 years) and see
"old fashion family values". Individuals with those type of values often are built around devotion to their partners. Its a value system that younger generations (the ones I call the 'shake&bake' relationships) rarely have.
Often, with the old fashioned values couples, sexual interest in each other has drastically diminished, or disappeared all together by the time they reach their late 40s-60's. Sexual experimentation to these people means fucking in a position other than the missionary position; and talking dirty during sex was also a rarity or didn't exist.
So, with old fashion values folks, you have to go way, way back and establish a common ground of sexual interest in each other ... with a focused interest on HER "orgasms". Introduce some non-evasive sex toys (finger vibrators, heat lotions, etc) then graduate to lifelike dildos and fantasy talk, and then other things ... all done in "stages". The thing is, with old fashion values people, its often been a while since they had any
real sexual stimulation from their partners (after 15 or so years of marriage), so they're often starving for it. Initially, however, they'll wonder
"why all the sudden interest in sex again?" And your simplest reply would be
"because I've just realized life is short". Mac