My wife has always had relationships with Black Men since the age of 16. When she and i started seeing each other she was 25 and was, at that time, seeing 3 Black Men which she told me about.
Eventually we got married and I have always been OK with her seeing her Men and she continued to see them on and off during our marriage.
We moved to a different country but she still went back now and again to see her friends and once or twice, to be with one or another of her Men.
One time she went back and went to a friends wedding where she met a Black guy who was attending the wedding alone. They clicked and one thing led to another. She spent the night with him (with my full knowledge and even better with the full knowledge of the bride and groome and they were also HIS friends).
After that weekend she came back to me and we had amazing sex. She also admitted she wanted to see him more often and "felt" a connection with him. I agreed so every 2 or 3 weeks she flew into London to spend weekends with him. Eventually they went out together as a couple with the couple from the wedding (this was, for some reason, especially erotic for me).
After 6 months or so my wife admitted that she had fallen in Love with him and told me not to ever push her into leaving him as she would not. I have to admit although a little upset at her way of telling me this, i was also very aroused and excited.
By this time we had stopped having sex (at his request and my acceptance) and all i was getting was a very very occasional hand job from my wife and being told that i should wank myself as much as possible.
After 2 years he broke off the relationship with my wife after he asked her to leave me and move in with him. My wife did not think this was fair as it would break up our home, so she simply said "No". I am not sure to this day is she expected his reaction but what happened was that he told her not to come and see him again unless it was to move in with him.
She was devastated and desperate. She rang him every day but he stopped taking her calls. She begged me to call him, which i did, and humiliated myself by begging him to take my wife back and pleaded with him. I never thought i would lower myself to the levels which i did for my wife and her Lover. I told him i would do almost anything he wanted including paying for their holidays together, that i would pay for his hotel stays so he could come over and be together with my wife and a lot more things.
But he point blank refused unless she left me, something she did not do.
It was a very difficult time for us as a couple. She cried for months and even now, six years after, when she thinks about him or we bring up the subject (i have to admit it still gets me very aroused thinking about what my wife did), it is painful for her.
We are still together. 23 years later. She stopped playing after that because she did not want to get hurt again, even though i still encourage her to play and find a lovely Man.
I love and adore my wife and would do anything if it makes her happy and gives her pleasure.
Would i go through all this again knowing what i now know? Yes. Without thinking about it IF my wife was willing to.
