Well, as we had already had a couple of drinks, one of my friends was accepting of my statement on how many white men now look at black/white lovers. She didn't make a big deal of it, but she nodded, and we both made a couple of witty comments about interracial porn. She did not dispute my statement, and as we continued to talk about the dating scene, it became obvious that Black/White was something she had already considered (duh). My hope was to help her understand that many now see it as proper and right, and I think she liked hearing that, especially from a white guy.
The other friend (different converstation) was less responsive, but we've gone out (not dating) with groups of others, including black men. I would make sure they were included in our conversations, and always deferred to them, even going to get us drinks at the bar. For her it's a longer work in progress, but in the end, if exposed more to the sexual presence of strong black men, is there any other way it can end but for her to eventually see the truth and submit to black sexing?