majorrocketman
Male
It's definitely a fetish, and fetishes are irrational. Usually based on some kind of primal fear or desire. But they can be pretty real to the people who have them.I believe the underlying theme is more that the women who left their husbands were unhappy in their life. Black, white, Asian etc.
I don't take from it that black men are superior lovers, I take from it these women were unhappy and found some sort of worth being with a black man.
I admit experience tells me that black men tend to be more direct and in control in the bedroom I think people are conflating issues.
Women don't just wake up and say I need to be fucked by a black man! If you're secure in your body and in love with your white husband it just doesn't happen.
White women married to white guys and then leave them for black men have underlying issues in their life, marriage and themselves to stray. It's pretty sad.
I read so many things on here about New World Order and all white women need to submit to black men and blah blah blah.
What happens when you accomplish that? The world becomes biracial (black) and then what are your fantasies?
People on here are really fucked up!
I think that at least some of these situations are limerence affairs. I feel like it's a combination of fetishization and limerence.
I definitely think some women fetishize black men. For them, sexual arousal and attraction is based on a fetish for black men, and all the things that come with that, both real and perceived.
I also think they might not always be divorcing for typical reasons, those underlying reasons you mentioned. That's definitely true in some cases, but based on how this lifestyle is progressing and normalizing, it could very well be that, for at least some of these hotwives, they formed strong, irrational lust based relationships with their lovers and together they make an irrational choice based on that. Like an addition that overrode reasonable thought. That's what's erotic about the situation, at least for me.