Discretion

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by msputaculona, Sep 28, 2015.

  1. msputaculona

    msputaculona Active Member

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    My first BBC keeps texting and emailing me after I told him he cannot. Any of you ladies deal with over zealous guys who don't respect? How can I deal with it?
     
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  2. waynerobertson

    waynerobertson Active Member

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    When its OVER it should be OVER. I like to enhance a couple's relationship NOT hurt it.
     
  3. falcondfw69

    falcondfw69 Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    You are a good man, wayne. As for the op, just ignore it, unless you want him again.
     
  4. msputaculona

    msputaculona Active Member

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    I don't want it to be over. I want him not to communicate with me when not ok to do so.
     
  5. ruthlessbull

    ruthlessbull Member

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    call blocking, use it.
     
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  6. falcondfw69

    falcondfw69 Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    I am really sorry for saying this, but why is it that women cannot use logic? How is he supposed to know that he should not communicate with you???? Is he supposed to receive some telepathic message?????
     
  7. bmanlk

    bmanlk New Member Real Person

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    Respect the parameters of the union and all is well. If that's not possible do what you have to do. Just make sure it's known what you don't want and if he can't Respect that cut ties.
     
  8. msputaculona

    msputaculona Active Member

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    For one he's not to text or email me untill I do so first. Even after telling him to not text me he continues.
     
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  9. falcondfw69

    falcondfw69 Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    ok. Then that is just wrong.
     
  10. falcondfw69

    falcondfw69 Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    My thought is that he feels he owns you, because he has fucked you. You need to re-establish control.
     
  11. MacNfries

    MacNfries Well-Known Member Sweet & Cordial Gold Member

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    .....Are you his first white female as well? Men usually struggle with rejection more than women, and have problems with the word "no", an ego problem prevalent with alpha males for sure. But, you do have a problem, as putting his phone on block only works for that phone. So, he'll go around that obstacle. And, as I recall, from one of your earlier posts, your husband isn't even aware that you're fucking around on him. So, this guy doesn't care about your marriage, or your husband finding out; he simply wants what he wants ... not a good thing within the confines & safety of your marriage. You know him better than anyone here ... what's your take on that?
    .....I would try to reason with him, first, and explain why you don't want him initiating a call or text to you. If that doesn't work, remind him of the stalking laws. You may need to seek legal advice if he doesn't take that hint. He could be one to actually cause physical harm to you, or worse, to a member of your family. If that occurred, think of how guilty you'd feel.
    pic_twocentsWorth2.jpg .......Mac
     
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  12. Noreen

    Noreen Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    sorry to say this hun but you need to block him.

    i've learned that guys that can't respect the boundaries can give you huge headaches further down the line.
     
  13. AllAmericanWife

    AllAmericanWife Well-Known Member

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    I'm afraid that's what makes relationships messy! In my experience, when you let them fuck you, you're in a relationship with them. The only thing you can really control is how long it lasts!:unsure::blackheart:
     
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  14. Xtreme8100

    Xtreme8100 Member Real Person

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    ^this.
     
  15. Chip

    Chip Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    If your married and afraid your hubby or family might find out because of this guy you are in a bad spot, would tell hubby before he hears from someone else if not you will have to keep h aving sex with the guy and hope he doesnt tell
     
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  16. bmanlk

    bmanlk New Member Real Person

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    It really boils down to what you're willing to deal with. I assume you had this already established and he agreed to that. If that's the case he's shown you he's not capable of maintaining the agreement. If you changed the parameters of the agreement, then that's a different story, especially if there was no discussion about said changes.
     
  17. bmanlk

    bmanlk New Member Real Person

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    Lol right!
     
  18. Mrs.InCharge

    Mrs.InCharge Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    I always set up right in the beginning that if I do not respond, it's not a good time for me but I will respond when I can.
     
  19. MILFSEEKERpgh

    MILFSEEKERpgh Active Member

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    Hes fucking the game up! Move on.....
     
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  20. jdflacpl

    jdflacpl Well-Known Member Real Person Gold Member

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    I think Mac N Fries said it best but this seems so simple BUT if he can't follow that simple rule then as mac said you have a bigger problem.
     
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