Cuckold Training

[Jack Smith]

I voted no, because I truly think that becoming a cuckold isn't something that is learned/trained. Either he is into it or not, intrinsically.

Perhaps not learned in adulthood but perhaps predisposed by earlier experience. I believe the urge can lie dormant for years ... even for a life time, but can also be triggered by various encounters. Once on that path it seems to take on a life of its own.

 

[willsrvu]

@willsrvu ... I do not know where to start. Your reply is just eye opening to me, please do share more in future. You seem like the perfect friend I need and who can help me in this transition. as I said earlier, I have no idea what the hell I am doing.Its all happening so fast.

I will help as best I can, but as I said, you need to be certain what you want and be willing to accept whatever the outcome of your decisions is. Unfortunately, it is rare that we can make everyone happy.

He did suggested me to have sex with a black guy, Why ? because before we wanted to get serious with each other, we decided that we will experiment , and as part of experiment was that I should have sex with a black man so I will not have any regrets, but it was supposed to be a one time thing, to him and to me. The problem that came up was that I just got hooked and really enjoyed that experience and continued to had sex after that.

At first he thought that may be I wanted to get that out of the system, so he dint say anything, but when I kept on having sex with black man, he got a little frustrated, because that was not the plan. at first he tried with polite request, then with a rude comment and then finally an open intervention style that he wanted to be part of my sex life. I was at this community at that time and thats where the idea of cuckold came to me that he can participate as a cuckold.

That is the problem with experimentation, once the genie is out of the bottle it is difficult, if not impossible, to put it back in.
I understand his frustration and anger at discovering he is not capable of being everything you need and desire. Hopefully, he will come to understand and accept that he doesn't need to be as long as he is willing to support and enable you to enjoy the things he can not give you himself.

However, not every man is capable of being a loving cuckold and he may not be able to bring himself to become this for you. If that is the case, you must be willing to let him go and move on.

Also he mourns the loss of his submissive girlfriend with whom he could enjoy sex however he wished, whenever he wished. Now he must share you and he feels partly abandoned and fears losing you.
He may not be able to get over this, but if he can, he will find that the two of you will grow stronger emotionally as a couple and the sex, although it will be different, can be just as exciting and rewarding for him as well as yourself.

Yes, I do care about him and since we both want a future together even though I want to explore my sexuality more, I think it is essential that we end up to an understanding. That means if I had to work and spend time on him to make him a cuckold, I will do it.

As I said, you really have only the choices of giving up black sex and going back to the way thing were or taking control and allowing him to choose to stay as your cuckold or leave. If you want him as your cuckold, it will take a lot of effort on your part to retrain the way you think in order to become comfortable making decisions and enforcing your will.
One of you needs to be the dominant partner and if you allow him to be, you know he will forbid you to have black sex partners. Therefore, you need to assume the dominant position and take control of both your and his sexual lives. His must compliment yours and you must find ways to keep him sexually satisfied in devoting himself to your sexual pleasure.
This does not mean he gets to have orgasms every time you indulge in some form of sexual play, but that he learns to enjoy sex even when it is only you who is enjoying an orgasm. Your pleasure must become his pleasure.

Now you are right that I should take charge and put my foot down, but this is also a very big change for me. Mostly because I myself is a submissive person, I am very submissive during sex, I like to be used and I like it. So that is going to be a little difficult to adapt dominant personality for my boyfriend and make him more submissive than me.

You will still get to be the horny, little submissive slut with your black lover(s), however the price of being able to enjoy that will be making the effort to learn and dominate your boyfriend. If you wish to also keep your boyfriend, that is.
Your first lesson is this: do not argue. When you make a decision, stick to it. If he objects, do not argue, he has already agreed to submit to you and he has two options: submit to your desire or leave. You must be firm. If you are not, he will always challenge you and try to make you back down. Once you give up control, the relationship will slowly crumble.
If you are firm, eventually he will understand that it is better to do as you desire and there will be less tension.
You must control your emotions and remain calm. No raising your voice, remain quiet, calm and assertive. No matter how much he tries to get you worked up into an argument, just smile sweetly and continue calmly as you were.

Good point you raised about permission for masturbation, Next time I will make sure that he is not allowed to masturbate without my consent. I want him to be a loving and obeying cuckold and I am willing to take responsibility for training him properly.

I will be more direct in giving orders to him from now on. Some real good advices from you about not letting him masturbate, reminding him that he finishes quickly and making him eat and clean up. But I really want to try to give him oral and keep semen in my mouth and lips and kiss him immediately. I am not sure how will he take it, but if he kisses , this means I have a chance.

Ingesting his own semen is, for many men, an extremely submissive act, so this is may be a very powerful emotional moment for both of you. It may be a big step in his consciously ceding control of his sexuality to you.

For many couples, practicing male chastity can be a helpful tool in preventing the male from masturbating or having other unauthorized sexual relief. So you may may wish to consider this option as many women find that their mates become more compliant and adoring when they have control of his ability to have orgasms.
Many men who are so controlled, also claim that their orgasms are more intense when they are gifted them and that they come to enjoy the constant state of arousal that being in chastity causes, even though it is frustrating.

Overall I am really hoping that everything turns out to be okay and he becomes a submissive and obedient cuckold. I will try these things from your post and from the guide posted earlier and will share more, so you guys can correct any mistakes I make. Thanks once again for such a fantastic post and making me understand the process. Thank you and please do share more ...

I hope this, as well, for both of you as you seem to really love him. I hope he loves you equally and makes every serious effort to learn to please you and accept your dominance.
Remember: you decide, you stand firm, you do not argue.

 

[Tempesto]

Perhaps not learned in adulthood but perhaps predisposed by earlier experience. I believe the urge can lie dormant for years ... even for a life time, but can also be triggered by various encounters. Once on that path it seems to take on a life of its own.

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Yeah, but if a man is not predisposed to this particular kink I doubt that he can become a willing cuckold.

 

[Orion Pax]

 

[sflcockoldhubby]

Ingesting his own semen is, for many men, an extremely submissive act, so this is may be a very powerful emotional moment for both of you. It may be a big step in his consciously ceding control of his sexuality to you.

For many couples, practicing male chastity can be a helpful tool in preventing the male from masturbating or having other unauthorized sexual relief. So you may may wish to consider this option as many women find that their mates become more compliant and adoring when they have control of his ability to have orgasms.
Many men who are so controlled, also claim that their orgasms are more intense when they are gifted them and that they come to enjoy the constant state of arousal that being in chastity causes, even though it is frustrating.


MMMM would love to be trained to eat my own cum... She already has me ... not allowed to cum unless I have certain conditions meet..

 

[sflcockoldhubby]

 

[willsrvu]

Yeah, but if a man is not predisposed to this particular kink I doubt that he can become a willing cuckold.

He may not necessarily need to be predisposed to being cuckolded per se, however, he must have a predisposition to submit to the desires of his mate for the cuckolding to be viable.
So, while he may not be a "willing" cuckold, he will be more inclined to accept it.

 

[Sana Alam]

well I finished with the second experiment which was really hard considering I behaved like a total bitch, but that was the requirement because I had to be dominant than my bf. It started the same way with interracial porn. I chose the movie, made him sit and watch it. During entire movie, I made numerous comments on Black guys cocks and made several moaning sounds in between. He really got turned on this time and wanted to have sex. I did the same thing again and refused from sex by stopping him after kissing. Frustratingly he tried to leave to the bathroom again but this time I saw it coming and dint let him leave.

When his frustration to masturbate was about to reach to extreme, like in 20 min into the porn, I asked him if he wants me to give him a blowjob right there, he took out his little willy so happily like I have promised him some Christmas present. I grabbed his penis and started to stroke, just when I was about to suck it, he came and it was over. This was very strange, because I have had sex with him before, he can last some good minutes , but this time I dont know what happened, he cum in like 10 seconds. I sat there for sometime in shock or surprise or relief (which I dont know what it was) and he sat there with typical male post masturbation look.

Then I realized may be this is the opportunity to strike and be mean to him on purpose. So I took out the bitch in me and started humiliating him and making fun of him. At first, being embarrassed at his little accident, he started making excuses but I kept on going. then he started to get a little angry to get the dominance back. but before he could get angry, I got seriously angry at him (on purpose) that if he cant last that long, what the hell I am doing with him.

So for the first time in like ever , he let me win the argument and be dominant for once. which was a big change for me, because I always am the submissive no matter what. But this time, I was the dominant one and he was ashamed and humiliated. So using the opportunity, I demanded that he should wear a chastity. At first he laughed, then tried to finish the conversation by saying casually that he will think about it and then getting serious that he just absolutely cannot do it. But I was in the bitch mode, so I refused to hear anything and gave him an ultimatum, that I demand that he wears chastity or us are over.

Me being angry and dominant did worked because I have never seen him that worried before. he not only agreed to the chastity, I demanded that he ordered it online in front of me, which he did. (I hope CB6000S is okay). Later as a reward we cuddled, he asked me whats happening to us ? to which I answered that our relationship is moving forward.

however I could not try the other things people suggested here, but at least I think it is a step forward. will see how it goes next time.

 

[Sally B]

Is it possible to turn a white man as cuckold by his gf/wife ?


lol silly white boys! It would be so easy! you all think with your little heads. Once the ******* goes there it's all over!

And they are VERY little heads indeed!

 

[willsrvu]

well I finished with the second experiment which was really hard considering I behaved like a total bitch, but that was the requirement because I had to be dominant than my bf. It started the same way with interracial porn. I chose the movie, made him sit and watch it. During entire movie, I made numerous comments on Black guys cocks and made several moaning sounds in between. He really got turned on this time and wanted to have sex. I did the same thing again and refused from sex by stopping him after kissing. Frustratingly he tried to leave to the bathroom again but this time I saw it coming and dint let him leave.

I'm not sure what you mean by "behaved like a total bitch", but you don't need to be mean, just be in control. Although, from the sound of it, whatever you did seems to have struck a cord with your boyfriend since it got him horny. Apparently he reacts well to your new dominant self.

When his frustration to masturbate was about to reach to extreme, like in 20 min into the porn, I asked him if he wants me to give him a blowjob right there, he took out his little willy so happily like I have promised him some Christmas present. I grabbed his penis and started to stroke, just when I was about to suck it, he came and it was over. This was very strange, because I have had sex with him before, he can last some good minutes , but this time I dont know what happened, he cum in like 10 seconds. I sat there for sometime in shock or surprise or relief (which I dont know what it was) and he sat there with typical male post masturbation look.

It would appear that the combination of the visual stimulation from the porn, your open enjoyment of it, your new dominant attitude, the anticipation of feeling your mouth engulf his penis and your masturbation of the same was too much stimulation for him to handle.
Isn't it nice to have so much power to be able to overcome his ability to control his own body?

Then I realized may be this is the opportunity to strike and be mean to him on purpose. So I took out the bitch in me and started humiliating him and making fun of him. At first, being embarrassed at his little accident, he started making excuses but I kept on going. then he started to get a little angry to get the dominance back. but before he could get angry, I got seriously angry at him (on purpose) that if he cant last that long, what the hell I am doing with him.

So for the first time in like ever , he let me win the argument and be dominant for once. which was a big change for me, because I always am the submissive no matter what. But this time, I was the dominant one and he was ashamed and humiliated. So using the opportunity, I demanded that he should wear a chastity. At first he laughed, then tried to finish the conversation by saying casually that he will think about it and then getting serious that he just absolutely cannot do it. But I was in the bitch mode, so I refused to hear anything and gave him an ultimatum, that I demand that he wears chastity or us are over.

Me being angry and dominant did worked because I have never seen him that worried before. he not only agreed to the chastity, I demanded that he ordered it online in front of me, which he did. (I hope CB6000S is okay). Later as a reward we cuddled, he asked me whats happening to us ? to which I answered that our relationship is moving forward.

Well good for you that you saw the opportunity to seize control and take it. It is becoming more and more apparent that he has a deeply hidden desire to submit to you which is being ****** to the surface just as you are beginning to realize that you are enjoying your new found dominance over him as well.

I can't say if your choice of devices is a good one for him or not. I hope you took measurements of his penis to determine if the CB6000S is the correct size for him.
Keep in mind it comes with two keys and you want to make sure you get them both, so do not permit him to open the package. You do it so you can get the keys and then allow him to try on the different size base rings and spacers to find the ones that fit best without permitting him to pull out of it.

You will want to keep one key on you at all times in case you need to release him quickly. Most "keyholders" wear a necklace with the key on it both to keep it handy and to remind themselves and their mate who holds the power.
The second key you should put in a small envelope that he can fit in his wallet so he will have it in case of emergency. Seal the key in the envelope and sign your name or make a design across the sealed flap so he can't open it without you knowing and tape over it all with clear tape. Have him present the envelope to you for inspection randomly, but often so that he won't expect when, but will know he better not tamper with it.
Make sure he knows he needs to notify you immediately if an emergency arises that causes him to unlock the device. Be sure, as well, that he understands the reason best be a good one because you will not tolerate him abusing your trust in giving him the key by masturbating.

You have not said whether the two of you live together, but hopefully you do as he will probably have difficulty sleeping with the CB on because of nocturnal erections. You may need to release him from the CB, but find a way to restrain his hands so that he can sleep comfortably but not be able to reach his penis to masturbate. However you do this, it must be in a manner that will allow you to release him quickly in case of an emergency.
Otherwise, he will just have to deal with getting use to sleeping with the CB on.

however I could not try the other things people suggested here, but at least I think it is a step forward. will see how it goes next time.

So far it sounds like you are doing well. You don't need to implement every idea at once. Take your time and introduce new things as it is comfortable for you to do so.
Give each a good chance to work and keep those that give good results and discontinue the ones that don't, but keep them for the future as sometimes something that doesn't seem to work at this time, may be just the thing you need at another time in the future.

Congratulations and good luck!

 

[willsrvu]

One thing that you should do as soon as possible is institute a ritual to help both of you reaffirm your new roles and put him in the proper frame of mind. It should be something simple, but meaningful.

If you both get up at the same time each morning, you might have him kneel next to your side of the bed, kiss your hand and tell you he loves you and devotes himself to your happiness.
Have him do the same thing when he returns home after work by coming to where ever you are sitting and kneel (one knee is fine) and repeat the same mantra.
He should repeat it again when you both retire to bed at night the same way he does it in the mornings.

You should respond by affirming that you love him and accept his devotion with joy.

Whenever he does something that pleases you, especially if it is something of his own initiative (brings you flowers, does housework, makes breakfast, gives you a massage, etc.) let him know you appreciate him. A simple smile and "that was sweet of you" will do. Positive reinforcement works wonders at encouraging good behavior.

 

[One Small Dick]

It sounds to me like the ten seconds for him to cum was caused by a massive turn on inside him. Whatever you did or a combination of it all set his balls on fire and the cum was boiling to be released. That is a good thing for you because now you know his excitement over all this is real and it's high, no matter what he may say about it. When his peter meter pegs that don't lie. By peter meter pegging I mean watch his dick. Hard as a rock equals extreme excitement and the ole limpo means just the opposite.

 

[mac5489]

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[Sana Alam]

I followed the original guide posted by @notamyth ... and moved my relationship with my boyfriend to the next level. We went to Amsterdam this weekend and I bought different sorts of toys including 2-3 different chastises and strap-ons. Did try once in the hotel, a little weird but we end up playing with them and you people were right. he is actually enjoying it and so do I.

@willsrvu ... I read another post that suggested the same thing and I already followed it. but may be I am too harsh or you are more aware of the practical issues, I kept all the keys to myself. and I do keep one of the key around my neck. we do live together, but so far there is no ritual of any sort, but I will come up with some original one myself.

however I have planned something, and have invited a Black guy too, haven't told my boyfriend though. he will be surprised, but It is my call. Actually I am taking a risk on my confidence and I want to see how my boyfriend will react when he will know that a Black guy will be joining in the middle of our sex experiments. Anyone wants to suggest anything that what should I do, please do tell me as early as possible. I want to test as many things as possible and I need all of you to wish me luck that everything goes smoothly.

One thing I like to mention, that being a submissive girl all my life and very suggestive sex wise , It is a fresh change to me to be the dominant. It has brought changes in me other than in my sex life, It has made me more confident, more open and bold about my desires. I feel like a new person already. So a humble request to all female out there, if they haven't tried converting their boyfriend/husband to a cuckold, they are living a scared life.

 

[willsrvu]

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however I have planned something, and have invited a Black guy too, haven't told my boyfriend though. he will be surprised, but It is my call. Actually I am taking a risk on my confidence and I want to see how my boyfriend will react when he will know that a Black guy will be joining in the middle of our sex experiments. Anyone wants to suggest anything that what should I do, please do tell me as early as possible. I want to test as many things as possible and I need all of you to wish me luck that everything goes smoothly.
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I'm happy to hear things seem to be working out well and that you are enjoying your new found dominance.

As far as bringing a black lover into the mix this quickly, the only thing I can say is try to keep your boy involved as much as possible so that he doesn't feel you are abandoning him.
You might have him undress you for your black lover and then have him perform oral sex on you while you engage in preliminary kissing and caressing with your lover. Have him hold your legs up and /or spread open for your lover. Have him kneel beside you to kiss you or suck a nipple while your lover fucks you. Later, you might have him lay under you and have him lick you as your lover fucks you from behind.

After your lover ejaculates inside your cunt, you can have him clean up. Even if you are using condoms, you should have him do this anyway for the mental domination. You do not need to have him do this with his mouth, unless you feel he is ready to do so at this time.
Keep in mind this will be a very humiliating thing for him to do, even more so if he is made to do it in front of the man who's semen he is consuming. He may not be ready for something this powerful yet.

If you don't think he can handle doing that as yet, it will work just as well to have him bring warm wet wash cloths and towels to clean and refresh both you and your lover and dispose of the condom, if one was used. Providing service is the main idea you are working to instill in him. You can introduce him to cleaning your lovers semen orally from your cunt after you have trained him to clean his own mess from you or where ever you allow him to ejaculate.

Have him serve you and your lover drinks and refreshments, warm towels, etc. The idea is to find things for him to do that both serve you and your lover as well as give him things to do that allow him to feel involved and of value to you.
As he does, thank him for being a good boy. You can even ask your lover if he thinks he is a good boy as he is being served refreshments so that he is being recognized be your lover.
This will be a confusing moment for him as he will be happy that your lover appreciates his service, but it will also be very humiliating as he will have been hoping that he and your lover will not have had to really interact with each other directly.
Your lover should not be demeaning toward him at this time as just having to serve you while you are enjoying the attentions of another man will already be a lot for him to handle.

If he does well, and we hope he does serve you well, make sure to let him know that you are proud of him after your lover leaves as this will both make him feel good and help cause him to want to perform well the next time you invite a lover to share your bed with him present.
No, this doesn't mean you should allow him to enjoy an orgasm at this time as orgasms are gifts you bestow on him and are not intended to be used as rewards. Actually, that's not quite exactly true as he may enjoy giving you an orgasm if you offer to permit him to do so with his mouth.

Whenever he serves you well, you can offer him the opportunity to service you orally as his reward. It needn't be cunnilingus per-se, you might prefer to have him perform analingus instead or even a massage.
The idea is to reward his service to you by offering him the opportunity to serve you again!

Of course, this additional service is one of a more intimate nature that he should consider an honor to be permitted to perform as it is something special that you share as a couple.

 

[Dsoul]

Best thing to make cuckold training a lot easier is when the white wife assumes her place beside her Black Master ... and affirms without question that that's where she wants and oughts to be!

Once she's affirmed this, she can then assume control over her hubby and let him know where his place is at.

 

[Dsoul]

If more white couples desire having a Black |Master around... I'm around.

 

[TopCat]

Training Session One (Cuckold Basic) - The husband masturbates while watching his wife get served by a BBC.

 

[Ann4BBC]

I have been trying to train my hubby to be a cuck since I started. It's ironic as it was hubby who wanted me to get into this lifestyle, but he has been reluctant at becoming a cuck himself. At first he was content just for me to go off with guys, but I finally got him to start watching. Which I love, and he does too now.
I mean this in a nice way, as I love my hubby, but I 'broke' him over a year ago. While I was 'owned' I stopped having sex with hubby, only jerking him off occasionally. But I started training him to cum in under half a minute. I would time him, and turn him on but say he's got to cum quickly or its over for tonight. So eventually he learned to shoot his load almost as soon as I started jerking him off.
Off course this meant when we started having sex he cum really quickly. In fact I remember I deliberately wound him up on the first Saturday we were going to have sex, telling him it was going to be great etc. I lay on the bed on the night in my stockings, my hubby got undressed and lay next to me. I touched his cock and whispered 'these are the stockings Leon fucked me in', my hubby shot his load straight away. I said 'oh, is that it then?'. My hubby broke down.
Since then the dynamic changed in our relationship towards me. Not altogether, but he's certainly more willing to go along with cuck type things. He's now happy to be present, watch me and take pics when we can, wear a cage and a little bit of feminisation that I wanted from the start.
He went from the dominant, confident hubby to me being more dominant!
So training can work! X

 

[Dsoul]

Most white husbands carry within their minds the need to submit to their basest erotic fantasies, which basically involves the wife getting a lover, who will utmost train the husband to submit to his cuckold nature.

Most hubbies can't help desiring this so badly.

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