..... How about the issue of you snooping through his computer? Sounds like you have some serious trust issues in this relationship ..... and as for him hiding stuff from you, he has trust issues too, which is why he could not share his interests with you ..... Either way, you are both young and a little immaturity is to be expected.
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falcon I wouldn't say this couple needs counseling, just yet, because of the fact that they are, as you noted, young and immature. Definitely appears to be a trust issue on both ends of this relationship.
That said, Mika has proposed a couple questions to us ... "
I'm confused why guys are into this?" AND
"should I break up with him?"
Guys have been interested in porn as far back as history can go recording such. They've found porn on cave walls over 5,000 years old. It's just the nature of guys as we're such visual creatures. I know I've mentioned this a couple times in this forum, but this might be perfect for Mika ... she might find it very informative to read the John Gray classic "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus". About 1o or so years ago my wife and I were laying on the beach, catching some Florida sunrays, and she was reading the paperback. She kept reading lines of the book to me and laughing, and it got me interested enough to read it as well. It's quite accurate in sizing up the differences between the genders. Mika, if you are reading this, at least go read the overview of the book to see if it might interest you. I think it will, because you're still in the learning stage of trying to understand men.
As far as breaking up with him ... that's your call, Mika. The whole purpose of courtship is to eventually find a compatible mate and the process of searching is a lot of fun. If you have no interest in erotica, but see that he does, then that's a big game changer, I'd think. But, if you have interest in some types of erotica, its just a matter of preference.
Mika also states that
"I don't find black guys attractive at all just to be clear and stuff". Maybe its just me, but I sense a bit of stereotyping here. Men (like women) come in a variety of physical & social extremes, and I'm pretty sure there are some black males that she would find attractive. I'll admit, this website probably doesn't do justice to the type of black male Mika might find attractive, starting with the seemingly fanatical focus on "huge black cocks" as the center of a black man's being.
I think Mika should have a personal talk with her BF and present her questions & concerns to him; she is young, but there is no use wasting time dating a guy with no foreseeable future, if in fact, that is what she desires.
Mac
