Lissa, I'll look forward to reading some of your "lustful affairs". I've always been a softie for Asian women anyways.
Spouse cheating is often initiated shortly after the birth of children. Not sure, exactly, what changes, but, the women feel less attractive, the husband sometimes looks at his wife, with all the baby fat, and doesn't see his bride in the same way. I recall, for about 2 months after the birth our first, how I wasn't as sexually attracted to my wife as I was prior to and during her pregnancy ... something chemical in the head sometimes changes, I think. Plus, the fact that I looked at myself as a "new *******" more than a husband or a lover.
Cheating is a dangerous thing to do when your spouse is totally unaware. If he catches you, and divorces you, you're stuck with raising 2 children on your own. Very few men out there are going to step up to be "******* figure responsible" ... they want your body, not children responsibilities. So, you could find yourself stuck for quite some time as a single mom. I believe the best scenario would be to bring your husband into the loop, somehow. If he can become receptive to you having occasional lovers, it could possibly work miraculously on your sexual relationship with your husband. Some married men (many like are on this site) become sexually stimulated by the sight & thoughts of their wives having sex with other men. Maybe he'll be one of those.
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