She is so self-conscious about her body that she won't let me take pics. I have to sneak them. When we went to bars she would pick the darkest most in the corner table or booth possible.
Well, she's not offended by your discussion of the topic, that's a plus. Sounds like a self-esteem problem to me ... and quite resolvable if
you so desire it to be. She simply doesn't feel attractive or able to measure up to the younger, petite girls that she probably wishes she could be. A few things come to mind ... and you can be a significant contributor to them:
....#1
join her on a weight loss (execise & diet) program with the mission of helping her lose 20-30 lbs to boost her self-confidence/self-esteem level, plus, it will be healthy for the both of you. My entire family joined a self-defense class for a few years to develop good living habits. Join a gym together, go on long, brisk walks,
replace high fat/carb diets with fiber/protein diet. Take her most favorite food (usually the worst for maintaining a good weight) and let her have it as a reward once a
week for reaching certain diet goals. Keep high fat foods OUT of the house; they're too tempting + you can learn to replace these sugar products with naturally sweet fruit products.
....#2 continue to discuss your fantasy of seeing her with a well-hung black man
....#3 continue complimenting her and encouraging her
....#4 convince her that not all men desire a slim, petite female; my observances and readings is that black men prefer their women a bit more 'meatier' than a lot of white guys. Possibly some of the black guys here will add their opinion to this.
This is
doable, and if you're sincere, you can accomplish what you desire. You need to become motivated to get her motivated. Good luck ...
Mac