Hi guys,
We are new to this lifestyle and are still learning about what we like, certain boundaries and how to communicate. Luckily we are very open and honest with each other and while talking we stumbled upon a topic that we think some members here could provide perspective or at least share their experience.
I, the husband, am fully convinced of the way I see my wife and the way I would love to see her: a bbc-hungry slut. That's easy for me though since this has been in my head since my teens.
In my wife's case this isn't something she knew existed, much less considered, until she met me. Even though she's very willing to try and curious to discover more, she's confessed that she's held back by two thoughts.
First, the irrational fear that once she gives in completely and gives over to enjoying another man, I will see that as permission to seek the same with a woman. She's convinced that this won't happen but the thought won't die out completely. Have any couples, hotwives or others gone through something similar? What was it that changed things? Or is this a constant concern? How do you deal with it?
The second and more important matter is this. It has been hard for her to imagine that I really, really want to see her enjoy bbc on her own terms. It's really hard for her to let go of the idea that despite my encouragement, presence and obvious horniness she would be cheating on me. She remains fearful that I wouldn't realize this until later, even after five bbc have come (ha) and gone. Have others experienced this and overcome it? What helped change this feeling?
I feel like we're on the right track. We talk, try, reflect and give feedback. She seems more and more comfortable and excited ahead of a meeting with a bbc. But we both thought a little real life experience from those that have come before would be helpful and valuable.
Curious about what you have to say!
We are new to this lifestyle and are still learning about what we like, certain boundaries and how to communicate. Luckily we are very open and honest with each other and while talking we stumbled upon a topic that we think some members here could provide perspective or at least share their experience.
I, the husband, am fully convinced of the way I see my wife and the way I would love to see her: a bbc-hungry slut. That's easy for me though since this has been in my head since my teens.
In my wife's case this isn't something she knew existed, much less considered, until she met me. Even though she's very willing to try and curious to discover more, she's confessed that she's held back by two thoughts.
First, the irrational fear that once she gives in completely and gives over to enjoying another man, I will see that as permission to seek the same with a woman. She's convinced that this won't happen but the thought won't die out completely. Have any couples, hotwives or others gone through something similar? What was it that changed things? Or is this a constant concern? How do you deal with it?
The second and more important matter is this. It has been hard for her to imagine that I really, really want to see her enjoy bbc on her own terms. It's really hard for her to let go of the idea that despite my encouragement, presence and obvious horniness she would be cheating on me. She remains fearful that I wouldn't realize this until later, even after five bbc have come (ha) and gone. Have others experienced this and overcome it? What helped change this feeling?
I feel like we're on the right track. We talk, try, reflect and give feedback. She seems more and more comfortable and excited ahead of a meeting with a bbc. But we both thought a little real life experience from those that have come before would be helpful and valuable.
Curious about what you have to say!
—Wifeyy
